hi everyon im cassie i am 17 my little boy brody turned two in January and is now 26 months and i am still in high school and do not graduate until 2011. Well i am a person who stresses very easy and i lose my cool and yell at. almost everything. i knw i need to calm down and need not to freak out at the small things but, as many of you know a 2 year old does not help the situation of stress any... I try time out, spankings, ignoring him when he screams and still nothing works with him. i want to be a better mom i just need a little help with disipline and keeping my cool.!!!!!!!!!! i am at the end of the rope im tired and sometimes i just want to give up and i feel so helpless and hopeless. So how did you guys over come the 2 year olds in your lives???
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just hang in there!! my son was the same way when he was 2.
just be consistent in what do you and it will work..... but it will take some time. i dont like it when my son yells and screams, so i dont yell or scream at him. i get down on his level and talk to him in a calm voice. also, when he would throw his fits, i would just tell him that i wasn't going to talk to him while he was acting like that and then i would just walk away. once he realized that he wasn't getting attention, he would stop. if you feel like you're going to loose it, make sure he's somewhere safe and walk away... take a few mins to gather your thoughts and relax.
my son is now 3 and i'm still learing what works and what doesn't when it comes to his behavior.
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I survived my daughters who are 5, and 7 now. Not sure how lol, but I did shocked I didn't gain a long term twitch. My third, my son is 2 and he is into the drive you crazy 2's. He doesn't listen, when he doesn't get his way he runs off whining.
Keep regular with what your doing with him, sometimes you have to ignore them. When I'm at home, he gets into a mood I let his crankiness run its course. You hang in there, and you'll come out of the 2's with flying colors. An feel like doing a dance lol. I'm 26, with three kids and my son when he gets into a really bad mood. I feel like sending him fed ex, to dh's parent's lmao. They don't see him enough, to get truly annoyed lol.
I agree with this mama. Sound advice!! I sympathize, though. I am 36 and my youngest is 19 months and enough to make me want to hide in the closet sometimes! lol My first 2 were never like this - I think he is making up for them being so easy!! Hang in there mama. It is good that you asked for advice. One of the biggest things I agree with from the mama I quoted - walk away, even if you have to put him in his crib or a pack n play. I don't do that enough, but I am working on that. They can certainly be a handful at this age, but if you stay consistent and hang tough, you will be rewarded for a long time to come. My sister has a book called "The Strong Willed Child". I have yet to read it, but it helped her get through the toddler years and beyond with her dd. Just a thought :)
Quoting MommyToEthan:
just hang in there!! my son was the same way when he was 2.
just be consistent in what do you and it will work..... but it will take some time. i dont like it when my son yells and screams, so i dont yell or scream at him. i get down on his level and talk to him in a calm voice. also, when he would throw his fits, i would just tell him that i wasn't going to talk to him while he was acting like that and then i would just walk away. once he realized that he wasn't getting attention, he would stop. if you feel like you're going to loose it, make sure he's somewhere safe and walk away... take a few mins to gather your thoughts and relax.
my son is now 3 and i'm still learing what works and what doesn't when it comes to his behavior.
hello cassie i am a 28 year old mother of a 2 year old i have to say with my first daughter payton when she was 2 i did have a hard time with her but you just got to pray and ask god to help you out sweetie i know its hard to understand but as he gets closer to three he will calm down all hes tring to tell you that hes learning new things and does notknow quite how to tell u my nine year old son was very bad at the age of two and you remind my of myself because i too was a teengae mom and did just about the samethings you did. but i asked god to help me it does get easyer as he will grow out of it soon
Do NOT give in to the tantrums--Make them use their words instead of scream and fuss. Make them apologize for being naughty and explain what it was that that they were being naughty. Limit their sugar intake, which includes some juice. Find ways to burn off their extra energy. Try pre-school part-time or full-time, whatever works for you.
I agree 100% with the mom quoted below. I'm 25 and have a daughter that just turned 3 in January. I do agree that that two year old stage is very tough to get through. But I found out with my daughter is that you really do have to stick your ground when it comes to discipline. My daughter must have spent more time in the "punish chair" than not during that year. But I did stick my ground with it, even though it was very tough, and would be sure to punish consistantly for the same type of things and behaviors. You have to try hard not to give in and just let him get away with things sometimes but punish for it other times. It is very exhusting keeping up with it but it does pay off. Anytime my daughter does something now to have a timeout for she will go the the "punish chair" and stay there until she is told she can get up. Also pick your battles, I know it is very hard to deal with everything a two year old can throw at you but somethings you just have to let go and try your best to ignore the behavior. I see it is if the child is not hurting himself or anyone else it is usually best to ignore the behavior totally. If he isn't getting any type of attention for doing something he will probably just quit doing it anyway. As long as you stay consistant and pick your battles wisely, it will get easier to deal with...it will take time and a lot of practice with building your own patientace level up.
GOOD LUCK!!!
Quoting MixedCooke:
Do NOT give in to the tantrums--Make them use their words instead of scream and fuss. Make them apologize for being naughty and explain what it was that that they were being naughty. Limit their sugar intake, which includes some juice. Find ways to burn off their extra energy. Try pre-school part-time or full-time, whatever works for you.
Good luck to you Momma! I have two boys... one who is 3 1/2 and one who is 15 months. So I just finished the 2 yr-stage and getting ready to start all over!! AHHH!!! But I promise it will get better. Someone said in a PP that really have to pick your battles... and it's true. And be consistent!! It's hard and I've spent a lot of time pulling my hair out, but it's totally worth it in the end. I stress out easily too, and found something that helped me. I wrote down some of the funny or completely silly things my DS did... then when I'd had a terrible day of fighting with him, I could go back and read some of the silly things that he had done. It really helped me relax and calm down about whatever we were fighting about at the moment... kwim? Well, I hope it helps and I hope you survive!! :)
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on Mar. 21, 2010 at 11:19 PM