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Flying with my 2 year old.

Posted by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 3:54 PM
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If it were up to me I would drive to Texas from Ohio to see my family, but my husband doesn't feel comfortable letting me drive that far without him. So my son is 2.5 and we are flying to Texas. I am scared to death! lol We flew last year and he was fine, but he wasn't 2 then. Temper Tantrums are here now. I just read blogs about people hating moms with kids on planes. And how there glad Southwest will escort the family off the plane if the child is bad. I really hope he doesn't embarrasse me. He does well when we go out in public, but does cry some when I tell him no. I can't just give in and give him what he wants, he would walk all over me if I did that. It doesn't last long, but i'm afraid its going to be too long for the other passangers on the flight. He is a very busy boy! I plan on bringing snacks and new toys to keep him busy. What are some good toy ideas? I'm bringing all new stuff so he doesn't get bored too quickly. And any other tips would be great!! Thank you so much! :)

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swilli06
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:00 PM

I fly with my son all the time. He will be 21 months next month. At the age of 2, kids have to start sitting in their own seat, they can no longer be a lap child. I actually like it better when my son has in own seat because he can stand up, sit down, look out the window, turn around, etc. And he is a lot less crazy wanting to get down and run around when he has his own space. Bring lots of snacks, toys, colors/paper, maybe a dvd player and a new movie (you could let him go to the store with you and pick the movie out). Good luck and don't stress. What I have learned is that my son's behavior bothers me a lot more than it bothers other people. Sometimes I've flown and thought he was awful and someone will tell me how great he was. simple smile

dancingdiver
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:21 PM

You know, even if your 2-year-old throws the world's biggest tantrum and embarrasses you beyond anything you've ever experienced and exhausts you both physically and mentally in the process, you will come out alive and you will be that much more convinced of your unconditional love for your little bundle of adventure.  I have flown alone a few times with my rowdy, wild, head-strong toddler, and each time he gave me a run for my money.  The first time I tried an overnight flight hoping he would sleep.  Nope.  He screamed and cried for over an hour in the middle of the night while everyone else was trying to sleep and giving me evil glares from all angles.  That was when my son was barely two.  So, I learned to not do an overnight flight.  The next time he was almost 3 and he threw a tantrum in the airport because i would not let him play on the escalator.  Oh boy.  That was a 30-minute tantrum that drew a ac crowd.  Then, I braved it again a few months after that, while pregnant, and he threw the hugest tantrum yet.... right before we boarded the plane.  I had to sit with him and hold him down to keep him from hurting himself while he screamed and thrashed around as everyone boarded the plane that we were supposed to be on.  When he finally calmed down enough to take him on the plane, I had a whole plane full of passengers staring at me wide-eyed as I entered because they had just witnessed first hand what he was capable of.  This was on Southwest.  I was mortified.  Yet, something amazing happened.  Sweet old ladies reached out and patted my arm as I walked by.  Other moms gave consoling nods and smiled at me.  Even the men on the plane tried to be as accomodating as they could.  One elderly gentleman gave me his seat so my son and I could sit together (or maybe he was just terrified of me leaving my son to sit next to him! ha!) and then the guy we sat next to laughed about the tantrum and reassured me that if I could handle that, I could handle anything and that my son was destined for great things.  I learned some very important things from these experiences, and I will share them here:  try to fly Southwest in the morning when there tend to be more kids and families on the flight; if you can, bring a mini-DVD player or other device to play their favorite cartoons on as a reward for doing what they are supposed to be doing, bring a lot of snacks, bring a new toy that your child has never played with before to pull out when they get bored, be ready for the worst and hope for the best, stay calm and patient.  If other people are annoyed or bothered when you are doing all that you can, that's their problem.  I don't mean this to sound insensitive, but it's true - kids need to travel, too, and if you're being an attentive parent and your kid still throws that tantrum or breaks down into tears when their ears won't equalize or whatever it is, you're doing all you can and most people tend to realize that.  Good luck!!!  Some day, when your kids are grown up and your a sweet old lady sitting on a plane, you will witness someone else's kid throwing a tantrum and you really will miss it :)

swilli06
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:33 PM

I completely agree with the pp. I have had some awful experiences when flying. And not because my son was being bad, because other people can be so rude! One time I asked a woman if the seat next to her was taken and she said no, you can sit there, I will go to the back of the plane. I was thinking to myself....I didn't ask you to go to the back of the plane, I just asked to sit next to you. Another time, I accidentally hit my son's head on the back of the seat in front of me while I was trying to get all my stuff arranged. I apologized to the woman in front of me whose response was, well I just hope this doesn't happen the whole time. I was pissed off the rest of the day! It was my fault, not his. And you are not that important because if you were, you would be flying Delta first class not Southwest with the rest of us! People can just be so inconsiderate. As parents, we are busting our butts trying to keep our kids happy so that they don't annoy you. But, you have the nerve to treat me this way. You are no more important than me and I have just as much right to be traveling with my child as you have to be traveling on your business trip. Get over yourself!

Mom2Jade08
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:40 PM

I have a 2 year old as well and we recently flew from Texas to Florida in March and in April... What helped us a lot was that I took a portable DVD player... I played her favorite movies (lilo and Stitch, Snow White)... I packed snack that I knew she would like with her sippy cup...  We barely had any problems with her... The one problem we had was naptime, but she cried for like 5 minutes and fell asleep... A lot of people are pretty understanding, you'd be surprised... And het if they have anything to say then you tell them "this is not a private plane so deal with it"

Mom2Jade08
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 4:46 PM


Quoting dancingdiver:

You know, even if your 2-year-old throws the world's biggest tantrum and embarrasses you beyond anything you've ever experienced and exhausts you both physically and mentally in the process, you will come out alive and you will be that much more convinced of your unconditional love for your little bundle of adventure.  I have flown alone a few times with my rowdy, wild, head-strong toddler, and each time he gave me a run for my money.  The first time I tried an overnight flight hoping he would sleep.  Nope.  He screamed and cried for over an hour in the middle of the night while everyone else was trying to sleep and giving me evil glares from all angles.  That was when my son was barely two.  So, I learned to not do an overnight flight.  The next time he was almost 3 and he threw a tantrum in the airport because i would not let him play on the escalator.  Oh boy.  That was a 30-minute tantrum that drew a ac crowd.  Then, I braved it again a few months after that, while pregnant, and he threw the hugest tantrum yet.... right before we boarded the plane.  I had to sit with him and hold him down to keep him from hurting himself while he screamed and thrashed around as everyone boarded the plane that we were supposed to be on.  When he finally calmed down enough to take him on the plane, I had a whole plane full of passengers staring at me wide-eyed as I entered because they had just witnessed first hand what he was capable of.  This was on Southwest.  I was mortified.  Yet, something amazing happened.  Sweet old ladies reached out and patted my arm as I walked by.  Other moms gave consoling nods and smiled at me.  Even the men on the plane tried to be as accomodating as they could.  One elderly gentleman gave me his seat so my son and I could sit together (or maybe he was just terrified of me leaving my son to sit next to him! ha!) and then the guy we sat next to laughed about the tantrum and reassured me that if I could handle that, I could handle anything and that my son was destined for great things.  I learned some very important things from these experiences, and I will share them here:  try to fly Southwest in the morning when there tend to be more kids and families on the flight; if you can, bring a mini-DVD player or other device to play their favorite cartoons on as a reward for doing what they are supposed to be doing, bring a lot of snacks, bring a new toy that your child has never played with before to pull out when they get bored, be ready for the worst and hope for the best, stay calm and patient.  If other people are annoyed or bothered when you are doing all that you can, that's their problem.  I don't mean this to sound insensitive, but it's true - kids need to travel, too, and if you're being an attentive parent and your kid still throws that tantrum or breaks down into tears when their ears won't equalize or whatever it is, you're doing all you can and most people tend to realize that.  Good luck!!!  Some day, when your kids are grown up and your a sweet old lady sitting on a plane, you will witness someone else's kid throwing a tantrum and you really will miss it :)


I agree its better if you fly in morning... Maybe first thing in morning after breakfast...

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annettenikole
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 5:38 PM

I have flown many times!  Even hawaii to Michigan with a 1 year old!  (and doing the hawaii trip again soon with my two year old now!) DVD's are great!  We take our laptop and use it as a last resort so the battery will last!

It's actually kinda amusing to me... there are really three type of people you will run into... ones who have kids with them and completely understand... ones who have flown with kids in the past and completely understand... and ones who have never traveled with a kid... some who don't understand just roll their eyes and post a FB status about how annoying that kid was (I have a friend who did that and did not like my response to her!) and some are not very nice to you.  Just have a thick skin with people, say sorry if your kid kicks there seat or something, but if they are nasty just very nicely ask them if they have any suggestions of how to fix it... who knows you might be surprised and get a good answer you didn't think, otherwise it might make them feel bad enough to shut up.  I don't think they'd ever kick you off a plane unless your kid was throwing a full on tantrum in the isle and you couldn't buckle them in (as that would delay take off)  Every flight attendant I've ever had while flying with my DD has been very understanding and helpful (even to the point of telling off one very rude passenger for me when I was trying to keep my mouth shut and be nice)

calilove33
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 5:49 PM

I fly with my daughter who is going to be 3 in aug. every few months. My family lives back in California and i live in Texas so she has been going back there since she was 4 months old. I bring tons of snacks (healthy or not) some thing for her to drink, a portable dvd player with lots of movies, books, coloring books, toys, any thing to keep her occupied for those 3 1/2 hours. I just started letting her not ride in her car seat. Every other time in the past i lugged in on the plane which is a lot of work buuuutt because she already knew she couldnt get up it wasnt an issue "i just told her no we can't get up its just like a car you have to stay buckled up."  now thats the positive part of bringing her car seat the negative is there is less room for you and it allowes there feet to be closer to the person in front of them so you have to keep them from constantly kicking them. we also talk about every thing every day leading up to leaving. she loves flying and knows the rule because we talk about it a lot. good luck and im sure you will be fine there are always lots of people who have kids on the plane and most are usually really good.

mcfaddenkids
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 5:49 PM

I think the people that don't like or understand kids, smell fear! Relax, you'll be fine, new toys are great. My oldest 2 are a year apart, I got them $5 tape players with headphone and some misc kid music on tape. They loved it and the ride was quite for me. There's also chamomile drops you can get them, made just for kids to calm their nerves and relax them. Totally natural and safe. 

conniesue88
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 7:18 PM
Thank you all so much! You have def calmed my nerves some. I think that is my biggest fear, having someone be completly rude to me when I'm trying to keep them comfortable. You have made me feel a whole lit better and I'm not going to worry about what other people say. I think if I stay calm my son will too! Thank you for the advise and I'm def going to be looking for a portable DVD player! Any suggesions on one? Thanks! :)
bhwrn1
by on Jun. 27, 2010 at 7:44 PM

Lots of snacks, new books and coloring books, DVDs if you allow that. And, go to the dollar store and buy a few new toys and give him one every hour or so to keep him occupied.

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