my step son is four years old almost 5 he is way behind where he needs to be in his development. he has problems mantaining information and any progress we make with him seems to go back when he goes and sees his real mother. Mom has him only three days a week for four hours on mondays and tuesdays and six hours on fridays. it seems like no matter what we do or how we do it, it just seems to get worse, everything from getting up in the morning to getting dressed and going potty to eating dinner brushing teeth and getting ready for bed is a nightmare. anybody out there can shed some light on what we can do? without going to the laywer? thanks for listening
jessica geriene
Are you sure you're not my friend April?! I have a close friend going through something fairly similar to you! The difference is that her step-son is 3 years old. Mom is ...worthless.. for a lack of a better term. Her daughter's grandparents are fighting her for custody -- and that's pretty bad IMO.
Anyway... April works with Mason as best as she can every chance she has him. They have also made alot of things 'rules' in her house. So he knows when they walk through that front door what's expected of him.
I don't know how she does it or anything...but I wanted to let you know you're not alone! good luck and *hugs*
thats a relief to know that im not the only one thats why i joined here. another thing that adds on to the battle is that mom is bipolar and she went into the hospitol back in march and up until recently mom did not tell us anything about nothing. and we have no idea what he was like as a baby cause my husband wasnt allowed to see him until he was eight months old. and even then he wasnt quite doing stuff a typical 8 month old should be doing. sorry to go on its just nice to finally have someone to talk to about things.
Consistency is so important, especially when getting them to bed and everything. Routines and structure are so beneficial to kids.
I don't have a lot of tips on how to get some of this in order, but I honestly think that the biggest contribution you can make to this boy's life is consistency and love. He needs to know that there is safeplace in his world. The fact that he makes progress with you and it is undone when he is at his bio mom's sticks out to me the most. Does "mom" have a boyfriend? Are there other people around when he's there with her?
one we are being consistant on days we have him and two she has to have super vised visitation with him so her mother is there as fair as her having a boyfriend we dont know. and both his real "Mother" and his grandmother dont really encurrage him to do anything we are doing with him i mean he didnt start walking until 15 months, he couldnt talk until almost three. i just want to see him graduate high school and be successful. i hope that answers your questions
How's your kid's first day/week of daycare or preschool? Please share! :)
- jessger
on Oct. 8, 2010 at 5:42 PM