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pretend play question

Posted by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:23 PM
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My son is very into pretend play.  Hours a day are spent on the scenerios of the fireman and policeman and what they do throughout the day.  I realized yesterday that he discusses the scenerios throughout the day all day.  He is sooo stuck in his world that I believe he doesnt know where play and real begin and end.  My older dd doesn't play make believe really so i don't know if this is a normal thing for children that play make believe or not.   He will talk to us normal conversation at dinner about how the firefighter was caught on the roof and the ladder had to let him down so he got rescued.  SO WE don't know if is somthing that really happened to him at school that day or if he played it with his action figures.  When we ask he tells us that it really happened and the shows us the "firefighter" that got stuck (one of his figures.)  This happens all day.  Also he play pretty much by himself for 3+hours at a time by himself with his scenerios unless we leave the house and he is not around them.

 

We are actually seeing a social worker (just started and son meets him tommorow for first time) to work on his anxieties, this is just one thing i was wondering about. 

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:23 PM
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RobynS
by Robyn on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:27 PM

I think it's normal and HEALTHY! He'll outgrow it to a point that you will start to understand which things are real and which are not. For now, he's expressing his creativity and that's AWESOME! Play along!! =)

Shy_Dia
by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:30 PM

my son could go all day without me or anyone around him. he was just really good at playing with himself... that started from like 2 and a half to about 4. at 5- its like he NEEDS me to keep my eyes on him. lol

when you question him, add in "oh- so that happened to your toys? not in real life." and when he says that it did happen in real life. kinda keep reminding him that his toys are pretend, you are real (show differences in the toys/people-- feel, size, etc)

but its also really good that your son has such a vivid imagination. its something that a lot of people lose as they get older. =(

i think it also depends on how old he is. lol if he's young- like under 3, then i dont think he really knows the difference, but if he's older, he can be taught pretend/real

.Angelica.
by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:33 PM

I would say it's normal. Some days my 3 year old seriously believes he is a car. You cannot convince him otherwise. LOL

jjlwallace
by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:33 PM

oh yeah we deffinatly play along and get him the figures he likes.  he enjoys it so we help him with it.  One problem is taht is pretend world is all about rescue people and the fires that he has to put out no matter where we are and some parents get annoyed that he is constantly talking about fires and firemn.  I have talked to him about telling fibs and stuff but this is his play world so he doesn't get it. 

vincentsmom22
by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:36 PM

I am totally on the same boat. My Son is totally into Toy Story, and thinks with all his heart that he is Buzz Light year. I thought it was so cute and harmless at first, until he started believing he could actually fly. NOw I am constantly at the edge of my seat wherever I am just waiting to catch him from whatever he climbs! I'm hoping this phase will be over with soon. 

bhwrn1
by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 2:44 PM

 I think it is quite normal. But certainly talk to someone if you are concerned. Let us know what happens.

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