Just started to really potty train my 2 1/2 yr old son today. Ugh

I'm doing the exact same with my ds, who's the same age. I would not make him clean his own mess because really... you're just going to have to do it anyway and it'll just take far too much time. And I use the regular baby wipes that we've always bought from Costco the Kirkland brand, but you can NOT flush them, we just line our bathroom trash can with the extra Walmart bags we always seem to have a plethora of and swap them out often.

i use tp to wipe her butt but if its just too much doodoo,its bathtime wipes-even  flushable ones plug our stool the landlord was not happy when the basement flooded

He just might not be ready.  And as for wetting the bed--trust me, no amount of training will fix that because it's all biological.  I wouldn't even begin to worry about peeing at night, keep diapers/pullups on hand for bedtime, but make sure your son knows they are only for bedtime (I have to keep mine in the closet on a high shelf).  I wet the bed for a long time and my almost 7yo still wears pullups at night because he has the occasional accident, but even until after he turned 5 he would be wet most nights.  Some kids do stay dry early on, but not always.

Good luck to you.  I'm potty training my son, who just turned 3.  It's very difficult.  We tried earlier, with no success, but it has to work this time.  You sound alot like me though.  He refuses to go on the potty but doesn't mind going in the floor or on his clothes.  Very frustrating! 

Quoting huskermom98:

He just might not be ready.  And as for wetting the bed--trust me, no amount of training will fix that because it's all biological.  I wouldn't even begin to worry about peeing at night, keep diapers/pullups on hand for bedtime, but make sure your son knows they are only for bedtime (I have to keep mine in the closet on a high shelf).  I wet the bed for a long time and my almost 7yo still wears pullups at night because he has the occasional accident, but even until after he turned 5 he would be wet most nights.  Some kids do stay dry early on, but not always.

Quoting michelle1995:

Good luck to you.  I'm potty training my son, who just turned 3.  It's very difficult.  We tried earlier, with no success, but it has to work this time.  You sound alot like me though.  He refuses to go on the potty but doesn't mind going in the floor or on his clothes.  Very frustrating! 

My oldest was 3.5 before I got him potty trained.  He would fuss and cry and go limp.  It was horrible!  The only thing that got him to poop on the potty was to get him flushable wipes.

My middle son is 3.5 and much like his brother is proving to be rather against potty training.  But instead of going limp like a noodle, this kid stiffens up his whole body and won't budge!  Aaah!!

The waterproof mattress protector is a good idea, we have one on every bed in the house.  It not only protects from bedtime accidents but anything else that could ruin your mattress, such as sweat or spilled drinks.    We use flushable wipes, I buy them in bulk from diapers.com to save a bit of money.

i did the bare bottom method with my son and just had his potty chair with us in the room we were in. He picked up on it quick. good luck!