Daycare is turning my child into a monster!

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My grandmother ran a day care for YEARS (as a matter of fact, I grew up in it) ... if you are unhappy with your day care provider, you should go in and talk to them about your concerns. I think you are wrong that it's the children, not the day care ... because MANY children go through day care that do not come out of it acting as such. If  you continue to have problems, you should consider changing providers. I understand that there is a certain level of influence with the other children, but children will be children. Perhaps she's in a day care where there are older children around that could be encouraging this behavior? Or perhaps they are watching television shows that exhibit these behaviors? If it is one child amongst the group encouraging these behaviors, I am sure that the provider can tell you about it.

People forget sometimes that a day care is not permanent. Child care providers provide a large chunk of child rearing (think about it 40-45 hours per week is a BIG chunk for a kid!) and it is important that you can have open and candid conversations with your provider, especially if you are concerned!

I wish you luck!

Well, at the daycare they are seperated into age groups, her group being the oldest. she is with 4-5 year olds. Also, there is no tv in that place, and I closely monitor what they watch so it isn't anything she saw on tv at home. I know 100% this is coming from daycare, and I don't see how a bad attitude could be from the daycare itself, it is surely the other children. Sorry, maybe I sound rude by placing the blame on other children but it is the truth and I won't sugarcoat it. If you saw it, you would understand it. Now she will be started kindergarten in the fall, and it's only going to get worse. I am DREADING this. I feel that my children (all children actually) deserve to have their innocence protected at this age and unfortunately so many children are exposed to things that ruin this for the others. If I was not a single parent, I would homeschool but I can't find a way to pull that off and still work :/ 

All I'm looking for here is anyone with any experience/advice with this issue because I want my daughters old behavior back. I talk to her about it repeatedly and it's not helping. I'm not sure what to do. 

Quoting NiCo86:

My grandmother ran a day care for YEARS (as a matter of fact, I grew up in it) ... if you are unhappy with your day care provider, you should go in and talk to them about your concerns. I think you are wrong that it's the children, not the day care ... because MANY children go through day care that do not come out of it acting as such. If  you continue to have problems, you should consider changing providers. I understand that there is a certain level of influence with the other children, but children will be children. Perhaps she's in a day care where there are older children around that could be encouraging this behavior? Or perhaps they are watching television shows that exhibit these behaviors? If it is one child amongst the group encouraging these behaviors, I am sure that the provider can tell you about it.

People forget sometimes that a day care is not permanent. Child care providers provide a large chunk of child rearing (think about it 40-45 hours per week is a BIG chunk for a kid!) and it is important that you can have open and candid conversations with your provider, especially if you are concerned!

I wish you luck!

I still say talk to the provider, ask them where they believe this attitude is coming from. They may be able to pin point one child (well, they SHOULD be able to!!!) and you can go from there.

But yes, children will be exposed to so much from other children. School age is a VERY scary time, but this is when being a parent is most imperative, teaching your kids that just because others do things, doesn't mean that they can or should. I HATE this lesson!! And am still working on my ten year old with it :-/

Have you asked DD where she's learning these things?

Quoting superm0m877:

Well, at the daycare they are seperated into age groups, her group being the oldest. she is with 4-5 year olds. Also, there is no tv in that place, and I closely monitor what they watch so it isn't anything she saw on tv at home. I know 100% this is coming from daycare, and I don't see how a bad attitude could be from the daycare itself, it is surely the other children. Sorry, maybe I sound rude by placing the blame on other children but it is the truth and I won't sugarcoat it. If you saw it, you would understand it. Now she will be started kindergarten in the fall, and it's only going to get worse. I am DREADING this. I feel that my children (all children actually) deserve to have their innocence protected at this age and unfortunately so many children are exposed to things that ruin this for the others. If I was not a single parent, I would homeschool but I can't find a way to pull that off and still work :/ 

All I'm looking for here is anyone with any experience/advice with this issue because I want my daughters old behavior back. I talk to her about it repeatedly and it's not helping. I'm not sure what to do. 

Quoting NiCo86:

My grandmother ran a day care for YEARS (as a matter of fact, I grew up in it) ... if you are unhappy with your day care provider, you should go in and talk to them about your concerns. I think you are wrong that it's the children, not the day care ... because MANY children go through day care that do not come out of it acting as such. If  you continue to have problems, you should consider changing providers. I understand that there is a certain level of influence with the other children, but children will be children. Perhaps she's in a day care where there are older children around that could be encouraging this behavior? Or perhaps they are watching television shows that exhibit these behaviors? If it is one child amongst the group encouraging these behaviors, I am sure that the provider can tell you about it.

People forget sometimes that a day care is not permanent. Child care providers provide a large chunk of child rearing (think about it 40-45 hours per week is a BIG chunk for a kid!) and it is important that you can have open and candid conversations with your provider, especially if you are concerned!

I wish you luck!

I agree that she's probably influenced by other kids. But I don't have first hand experience with it. Good luck!!! I know it has to be tough. My oldest is in kindergarten this yr and has learned some things that I correct in a snap of a finger!!!

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Be cnsistant at home u have to kick it in the butt.

At four she is old enough to learn right from wrong. She will encounter rude behavior and cursing from her peers in life, its best to teach her how to handle it now. Its not all the other kids fault, yes they do it, but she chooses to copy, its her choice. Teach her to behave, to be polite, not to curse. Discipline her and teach her right from wrong, that when the other kids do things like that, its rude and wrong and she isn't to copy them or people will think shes rude and mean.

It also could just be the age.  My dd is the same and is almost 5.  It could be that she is figuring out a developmental milestone which putting children out of wack.  I agree that being consistant at home will help her learn what is right and wrong.  Have you talked with the teachers??

 

Mine was so pleasent until last year and she has been going to daycare since the age of 3, with mine I realize she was and is still going through a phase. She told me she needed a bra for her boobs. Told me she was one day going to be a mom.Tells or screams no at me, throw tentrums like never before, is mean to everyone when in the mood. It can be overwhelming for me because I sometimes don't know how to react.I try to reenforce my authority let her know that how she acts is unacceptable and that her actions have consequences, She has great days and some days is a melt down. I think you should talk with provider see if your daughter acts like that at school.