My soon to be 4 year old son Haiden really got on my nerves. There is 4 pieces of legos and him and his brother were fighting. I asked Haiden nicely to give his brother two and then he would have two that way it was equal and they both had to legos. So he Screamed Logan won't let me play. So then i said then why don't you build a tower with him and the pieces you got. He screamed, threw the legos every where so i got up, and gave each of them 2 piceces of Legos. Haiden screamed and threw his set down, so i got extreamly mad at him, and shoved the two he threw down into his tummy (not hard but enough to make him cry), and i pushed him down. I then leaned over him and told him to stop fighting, and why he has to be so nice to everyone else but is a jerk to his brother while screaming at him.
I know i handled the situation like a child, but he has been pushing me, and pushing me, and i finally just broke down and did mean things to him. I have never done this before, and i don't know why or how it got to me that bad, i just feel so horrilbe. I aplogized to him, hugged him and cried on his shoulder. But what i did i can't take back. I feel so horrilbe and it hurt me so bad just to treat him like that. I didn't mean too and didn't want it to happen but it did.
Please don't bash me, i already feel so horrible on my actions.
((hugs)) as a mom, we all make mistakes. learn from it. teach your child that mommy makes mistakes to, and that you have to apologize sometimes for the things that you do.
I am sorry that you went through this. But it will only make you stronger, more aware of your own feelings and actions, and only build you up as a parent! ((hugs)) stay strong mama! <3
Hey mama,
Don't be so hard on yourself. As long as you didn't hurt the child then al should be good in the end. Just make sure you apologize for the way you acted so that you are showing him that sometimes people say/do things to hurt others, but this is how you rectify it.
But I would set him down and let him know how important it is to share with his brother....wheather he likes it or not. You can even use this instance of "you see how I can hurt your feelings"...."this is how you can hurt your brother's feelings".
Just try to bring home a lesson with all of this :). We've all done it, so none of you can say anything :P
The fact that you feel so badly about it is important--that will likely help you keep yourself in check in the future. Walk away when you need to. Go to the bathroom or where ever you need to go to get away, even if just for a minute or two. I know it sounds cliché, but take deep breaths and count to 10 (or 20, or 30!). Then go back and handle the situation.
You did the right thing by apologizing. He saw that you're human, that you make mistakes, and that you apologize for them when you do. A good life lesson! :)
You sound like a good parent regardless of what happened today. We ALL have our moments. I agree with all the posts that were posted before mine. Have a great rest of the day! 
pulling my son from preschool
- 2boysyahoo.com
on Feb. 13, 2012 at 1:13 PM