At my wits end with my DD- Help please!

Ugh. My son used to do that. I would put him up to bed and tuck him in and everything, and the second I got downstairs "Mommy, I have to do peepee!". He would come downstairs, go into the bathroom, and just stand there. Then he would say "oh no i dont". He would do this at least 3 times a night. He was 2 1/2 and now he's 4. I know it's really frustrating. So what I would do is before he went to bed or before we went out somewhere I would stand there and watch him pee. I said to him, okay now you got all of your peepee out, don't lie to me you have to go. And if he would, and not go I would start taking toys away. Like if he said it again one night and was lying then I would take one of his toys. This seemed to work for him. I just explained to him he can't keep lying he has to go to the bathroom and he kinda just one day stopped. She might just grow out of it.

I know i felt terrible, like what if he really has to go? Lol

 Desirae does that too when i put her in a time-out..Im beginning to think make the child go potty before putting in a time-out that way if she/he does use that excuse u can say "you went before u went in a time-out".. I plan on starting that with Desirae today

My son did the same thing but once he seen that he would still have to do what he was asked he stopped.

It's just a stall tactic.  When my daughter [4] does this..  I tell her, "Okay, go to the potty, then come right back.  You're still doing your 4 minutes for not ... [whatever the offence was]."  That pretty much stopped it because she knew that no matter what she was going to give me 4 minutes.

She's at the point now that when I tell her, "Okay, you're going to time out for not.. [whatever the offence was]," she just walks over to her spot and sits quietly.  The only time she generally pulls a fit is when she's over-tired. 

I think the underlying issue is that the child is telling a story (lying). I try to teach Myles that telling mommy a story that is not true is not good, and will only get him more trouble. If he really has to go to the bathroom, that is fine but if he does not then he needs to stay here in timeout until it is time to get up. If he indeed needs to go, he goes and comes back and still does him time. And if he does not have to go, and says he does, I add on time to his punishment for lying. He learned that telling mommy a story is not good. And will only get him in more trouble.

They can hold it for a while at that age and maybe need to go, but weren't willing to take the time out while they were doing something they don't want to do.  Then when they get still or have to do something less fun, it becomes important that they go.  With my 2.5 year old I try to plan stuff to make him go, like when we are about to leave the house I make him go to the bathroom first (and he usually fights me), or if I'm about to tell him to go to bed (which he doesn't like), I make him go to the bathroom.  If he tells me he has to potty during something (like time out) and I think he's stalling I just tell him to go potty and then go do whatever he was supposed to do.  He only gets one shot at the potty, though.  If he says he needs to potty again, I say no.  I put everything on hold, if it's room cleaning or time-out, or whatever and he has to go right back to it after pottying.  He doesn't do it as much any more.

BUMP!

Been there. Lol my 4yo still does it. She just gets in trouble more if she doesn't go

Shes doing it to get your attention; keep that in mind. Spend more time with her, reward her/ acknowledge her more. Make her feel important :)

my dd tried the same thing so i would escort her to the rest room and if she did not go potty she would get a time out for lieing to me if she did go potty i would tell her thank you for telling me and go right back to doing whatever it was we were working on. stopped that habit real fast