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Two toddlers close in age..CONSTANT fighting!

Posted by on Apr. 14, 2012 at 1:50 PM
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So my title says it all.  I have a 3 & 2 year old..14months apart.  They are non stop at each other's throats..no matter who we are with or where we are at.  The oldest is a boy and youngest a girl.  I know I'm not the only Mom going through this..any advice, suggestions would help.  It's like they're in the Ultimate Fighting ring, they punch, bite, push, pull, pinch, kick anything to inflict pain on the other.  I break them up and turn my head to do something and they're right back at it!!!! I feel like pulling my hair out most of the day (I'm a SAHM with them).  They do have their good moments where they are laughing and playing together but it seems to always end in a fight for some reason.  And when they are apart or I have one at a time, it's sweet relief, they are great.  Is it just all of my attention they want??  But when they are together, which is mostly the case and I'm paying attention to one, even though they have all my attn they'll still fight!?  It's like I can't win. My 3 1/2yr old still cries and screams a lot and throw's temper tantrums and throws toys when in time-out. He just seems so angry..is this normal I wonder. But then again I know there is no norm when it comes to kids. But I also wonder if he/them will get better when he starts preschool??

Anyone going or have gone through this????


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Posted by on Apr. 14, 2012 at 1:50 PM
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mommy053008
by Maria on Apr. 14, 2012 at 1:54 PM
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Tantrums at 3 torally normal. I thought mine was the only one! Thankfully not! My kids are almost 1 & almost 4 so I haven't got to the fighting part yet. I am interested to see how it plays out. Good luck and remember all siblings fight! My brothers and sister and I would juat about kill each other, but we also are SO close now! There are ups and downs to any ages remember that!
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Mommy2b2324
by on Apr. 14, 2012 at 2:05 PM
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My kids are 15months apart and are the samd age as yours and gender order. Its normal cause they both are at the stage where they dont want to share and want to do everything for themselves so its only natural they will butt heads. My kids throw down fight but they are also very protective of eachother.
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PEEK05
by Kendall on Apr. 14, 2012 at 9:12 PM

Sorry I have no idea. My children don't fight. My girl is 3 years old and my boy will be 1 in 3 weeks. However, my brothers and I fought ALL of the time. No matter what my mom did, we fought almost constantly.  I hope that you can figure something out.


NeOnPrInCeSs3
by Member on May. 19, 2012 at 7:53 PM

I am in the same boat. My boys ar 4 years(in June) and 2.5 years old (in June) so they are 18 months apart and they are always fighting with each other what seems like non-stop.

Wendsdy
by Silver Member on May. 19, 2012 at 9:09 PM

Sorry, I have no advice. My daughter is 4 1/2 and my son is 2 and for the most part, they don't fight...yet.  I have a Brother and we were ALWAYS fighting but I think that happend later on so I know its coming.   I know it doesn't help but it really is totally normal for Brothers and Sisters to fight. I'm not looking forward to it. Good Luck!

Derari
by Member on May. 19, 2012 at 9:10 PM
I'm looking for answers too...mine are 23 months apart and same thing!
yellownes8
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2012 at 9:13 PM
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My girls are 2 and 18 months...they are 15 months apart and the fighting never ends! I'm hoping they grow out of it soon. Just had my son yesterday...I know soon enough he will be fighting with them too...lord help me!
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Shawna510
by Member on May. 19, 2012 at 9:17 PM
My girls are also 15 months apart and fight constantly. Like throw do fight. But will protect each till the end.
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MommyRJ
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2012 at 9:19 PM
Mine are also 2&3 and just 18 months apart. We have the same problem- minus the hitting etc. they pick on each other and purposely piss each other off. It's crazy here 24/7
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DACIA79
by Bronze Member on May. 19, 2012 at 10:12 PM
Been there done that it gets better and its normal . Have You considered preschool for the 3 year old it might help to be around some other kids than a sibling for a change giving you both a break
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