They lost my child, am I wrong for not sending him back?
I babysit a little boy my stepsons age, four. His parents signed him up for a swim group at a local center during the time that I usually babysit him, which is fine, and she asked if my stepson would go to the swim program with him. He's very shy and doesn't know the other kids in the group so she thought it would help to have a friend go along. My stepson knows how to swim, but we figured it would be fun for him to get to swim and she offered to pay for his lessons, so we said why not. Their checkout system is every parent picks up their child from the front and signs them out. So I go to pick up the boys from the pool, and only the boy I babysit comes out, so I go into the pool area and ask where my stepson is and they say "he already left with someone", this sends me into and panic and I ask who he left with and the woman in a pretty rude tone says "I dont know, I didn't ask their name", then they inform me that anyone can pick up anyones kid, they just have to sign the checkout book, something they didn't tell me in the beginning, so I call my husband to see if he picked him up for whatever reason, nope, they check the sign out book and no one signed him out and now I'm really panicing and my husband is trying to get out of work because now he's panicing. How can they just let people walk in like that and take kids? My stepsons biological mothers rights are terminated and his biological maternal grandmother is not happy that we have custody, so there are options of people wanting to take him without our permission, he knows not to go with strangers but if his grandmother came in, who knows, he might have gone with her. So I'm about to call the police right now and we're on the way to the office to call them and say that my child is missing, when we walk by the bathroom door and hear banging and yelling. They open it and theres my stepson. Apparently he was in there changing out of his bathing suit and took a little longer then the other boys and someone just came in, took a quick look around but didn't really check for kids, turned out the lights and locked the door, so he was locked in there. He said he had been yelling but no one heard him, so he was just sitting in there until he heard my voice outside and started yelling again. So now I'm like, how could you not know he was in there, he's four, don't these people keep track of where the four year olds are and how could they just be completely okay with anyone walking in and getting him in the first place. I went and talked to the director of the program and they said they were sorry and that it wouldn't happen again, but that there would be no consequences to the staff and no policies would change for picking up kids. So I said okay, then my stepson is no longer coming back to this program, I don't feel that its a safe environment. Now the boy I babysits mom is freaking out on me, saying that my stepson needs to finish the program and he can't just leave her son without any friends there, that I'm overreacting by not sending him back and that I should just accept their apology, I told her I was sorry and I would pay her whatever the remaining lessons cost her, but hes not going back.