Anyways I was over there one day and she went to hit my dd and my dd pushed her, hard. Now she's sstarted hitting the other girl, when she thinks it's coming anyway, I've told them both not to hit, but my dd WILL listen to me and I don't want to tell her to stop when the other girl won't. Should I just stop hanging out with my best friend? Or try to tell her how to parent?
Hey,
I would bring it up to your friend just so that she's aware. I hate to break a frienship like this over something so small, but you are right, something does need to be done.
Good luck :).
I can relate to this a bit. My 5 1/2 year old DS is 2 months older than my BFF's DD and they play HORRIBLY together. Not from hitting but they will "fight" or "wrestle" at the little girls suggestion but my son is solid (not fat at all but just solid) so the little girl usually ends up crying. I love my BFF but they pretty much let their DD run the show so she's a whiner and pretty bratty and I spend the whole time having to discipline my son although he's not the ring leader in these things but he still has to take responsibility for his actions. I detest playdates with them although they continue to say they want to play with each other. Everytime is horrible though so I avoid them as much as I can. Thankfully they are both in school so we rarely get the kids together anymore.
Invite her to your house. Your house, your rules. The rule in my house was always No hitting. Period.
Everyone was expected to keep their hands to themselves. I have zero problem verbally disciplining someone else's child in my home.
The only think you can do with your daughter while over there is keep her in your site and remind her to not hit. If the other child hits your daughter, remove your child from the situation until the other parent says something. Tell your friend you don't think either child should be hitting and ask her to discipline her child for hitting. It doesn't matter how big the child is, hitting is not ok. If your friend refuses to make her daughter stop hitting let her know you will not be able to bring your daughter over until she grows out of her hitting phase.
I would say "No hitting guys" You're including both of them , even though you really mean it towards her daughter. I think it's a more polite way to let your friend know you don't approve. It it keeps on happening, I'd grab my kid and leave. If that doesn't get her thinking, nothing will.
Quoting sophiesmom07:I would say "No hitting guys" You're including both of them , even though you really mean it towards her daughter. I think it's a more polite way to let your friend know you don't approve. It it keeps on happening, I'd grab my kid and leave. If that doesn't get her thinking, nothing will.
Quoting PEEK05:How does she encourage it?
How's your kid's first day/week of daycare or preschool? Please share! :)
- Maks1mommy
on Jun. 11, 2012 at 10:08 AM