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Lying

Posted by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:31 AM
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This morning I woke up to see blue pen all over my sons leg. I asked him "Why did you do that?" I was calm, more shocked to see his leg all blue, lol. Then he looked at me and said "You did mommy". WHAT?!? I was sleeping!!
Then he says "Auctually, Mariah did" She was still in her crib. Now I'm mad why is he lying? After a few times of him lying, saying he doesn't know who did it he finally points to himself and admits he did it.
We don't lie, infront of him or otherwise. I've heard lying is learned but I don't see where he's learning it from. Maybe from play group, a parented play school but I don't see a whole lot of interaction between the kids.
I'm at a loss as to what to do or how to help him. He lost a privilege this morning. But I just don't know where he learned it from or how to stop him. This is not his first time.
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cookinmommyof1
by Bronze Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:38 AM
Our 3yo ds does similar stuff. When asked about something he says "well, my guy did it." He doesn't do it all the time, but when he does, its always for something stupid. He doesn't lie about stuff you could see a kid lying about. Lol.
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Matriarch87
by Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:43 AM
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I think its more exploration than learned...I lie constantly to my son when we play it's called using our imagination.
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countrygurl1985
by Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:47 AM
My dd does that too. Kids that young will tell you one thing and 2 minutes later tell you something different. Especially when it's to cover their own ass! I would just sit down and try to explain what a lie is and that it's not nice and see where it goes from there. GL
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sophiesmom07
by Platinum Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:48 AM

I think this is a phase all kids go through, regardless of whether you lie in front of him or not.  Just correct him when he does it, enforce that lying is not tolerated. He will stop eventually.

ShyMama0817
by Member on Jun. 16, 2012 at 11:36 AM
Ok I'm glad to know it's more normal behavior.
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babowes
by Barb on Jun. 16, 2012 at 11:42 AM
How old?
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TruthSeeker.
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 11:45 AM
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 Lying is a natural part of development for a pre-schooler. It isn't learned, it's inherent.

 Don't get angry at him when he does it. Keep explaining the importance of telling the truth and remind him the difference between a lie and a fib or pretend. When he lies give him another chance to tell the truth reminding him that we don't lie ever. If he lies again, give him one last chance to tell the truth while telling him what the consequence will be for the lie.

 I rewarded my daughter when she lied by giving her the opportunity to tell the truth. If she told the truth she was not punished. We then would talk about why it's important to always tell the truth.

 The biggest lies where when she would hurt her brother(while playing) and he would cry. I knew she'd done something but she would lie. It took her awhile to realize that lying would get her into much more trouble then just telling the truth.

 She is now 7 and rarely every stretches the truth anymore.

 Good luck!!

laineysmum
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 12:13 PM
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Wow, Truth Seeker saved me the trouble of explaining :D ..Lying most definintely is NOT learned behavior; it's a set stage in normal child development. 

momeofasweete1
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 12:28 PM

i'm just going to say, it's our human nature to lie, you don't have to teach a kid to do wrong, they will do it, the hard part of parenting is teaching them to do right.. it's so easy for a child to do wrong...

mummy1990
by on Jun. 16, 2012 at 12:29 PM
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Kids make stuff up all the time. I don't really think its learned exactly, don't be too hard on him, just tell him not to tell tall tales. thats what my dad did and then he tried to lie about my brothers age when we went fishing, he said my brother was 9, when he was 11, just to get 2 dollars off, and I was like, dad, he's 11, he gave me this look and was like, oh shit, what have I done. Lol.
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