Then he says "Auctually, Mariah did" She was still in her crib. Now I'm mad why is he lying? After a few times of him lying, saying he doesn't know who did it he finally points to himself and admits he did it.
We don't lie, infront of him or otherwise. I've heard lying is learned but I don't see where he's learning it from. Maybe from play group, a parented play school but I don't see a whole lot of interaction between the kids.
I'm at a loss as to what to do or how to help him. He lost a privilege this morning. But I just don't know where he learned it from or how to stop him. This is not his first time.
I think this is a phase all kids go through, regardless of whether you lie in front of him or not. Just correct him when he does it, enforce that lying is not tolerated. He will stop eventually.
Lying is a natural part of development for a pre-schooler. It isn't learned, it's inherent.
Don't get angry at him when he does it. Keep explaining the importance of telling the truth and remind him the difference between a lie and a fib or pretend. When he lies give him another chance to tell the truth reminding him that we don't lie ever. If he lies again, give him one last chance to tell the truth while telling him what the consequence will be for the lie.
I rewarded my daughter when she lied by giving her the opportunity to tell the truth. If she told the truth she was not punished. We then would talk about why it's important to always tell the truth.
The biggest lies where when she would hurt her brother(while playing) and he would cry. I knew she'd done something but she would lie. It took her awhile to realize that lying would get her into much more trouble then just telling the truth.
She is now 7 and rarely every stretches the truth anymore.
Good luck!!



- ShyMama0817
on Jun. 16, 2012 at 10:31 AM