When is it something more than the terrible two's? *update
Well I literally wrote out an entire story earlier and then my laptop seized so here I am again, long story WAY shorter.
DS is almost three. His outrageous behavior has been going on for the entire time he was two and before. I played it off as terrible two's... it's recently gotten ..... horrifying.
He is a monster, sadistic, whiney, bratty, monster 24-7. I get no relief. He's pushed all our family members away. NO ONE wants to be near him. He fights EVERYTHING, the most small and stupid things. He hits himself and hits other people. He throws tantrums, cries, whines.
It's not that I don't do anything ... I have done everything. I have tried discipline, ignoring him, distracting him, bribing him, helping him, being super nice, he just doesn't care... not one bit.
What can I do? When does it go from normal to not? What is wrong with him? It's so sad that even I cannot stomach being near him anymore. I am sick of dealing with it. It hurts. He has this blood curdling high pitch scream that he does ALL the time, I have migraines 24-7. I just... ugh.. I can't do this anymore. My life has just turned into something I hate, it's miserable.
Anyone else been through this?
* I just wanted to come back and whine/vent a little. I am walking on egg shells 24-7 with him now. I'm THIS CLOSE to putting up a paper with trigger words on it for the household so no one sets him off. (this list will be long) It's so pathetic, I don't look forward to ANYTHING much less spending time with him now. Three mornings straight now he wakes up and IMMEDIATELY!! goes into a fit of rage, throwing a tantrum for a good hour or so every morning. Of course this goes on all day long pretty much. I set up a dr. appt. but have to wait until closer to the end of the month, what the hell on earth can I do before then?? Why is this happening to me?? I can barely handle my life as it is with all the bad that just surrounds it lately, but seriously. Now I have to do it with the worlds worst toddler. Sigh.
Not yet, we will hopefully be seeing them soon. I just honestly cannot even describe how bad this is... and it isn't just sometimes, it's 24-7. I dread every moment of him being awake now. ugh.
Quoting j3ssica777:
Sounds just like my 3 1/2 year old son. i talked to his pedi and he says ignore the tantrums which is almost impossible. I dont have much advice but what the doc told me is that if it doesnt get better by the time he is 4 we will test him for ADHD. Have you talked to his doctor?
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Quoting mamaeagle216:
Talk to his pedi, get a recommendation for a therapist and see what they say. Therapy for a small child can go a LONG way in helping with behavioral issues.
Thank you so much. I do have a feeling this is what it will come to, him being diagnosed eventually with something. My mom told me earlier, that this is precisely how I was. I said 'well when did it STOP?!?!' and she tells me pretty much it never did... it went straight on until I was a teenager, smashing windows, threatening murder, I tpre down the entire wal in bedroom once.
Yes, I was .... insane. I have alot of emotional issues and disorders. Apparently DS will now too... I am so overburdened. I don't know how to cope with this behavior or deal with it anymore. I don't LIKE or WANT to have feelings like hate towards him, but he drives me there, he drives everyone he knows there.. and he's just a little tiny 2 year old... I just don't know what to do.. I will be making dr. appointments tomorrow.
Quoting michiganmom5150:
Omg. Sweetie, I am sorry! Been through the same thing. My ds just turned 4. His started a little before age 2 as well. We did the same. Terrible twos...not so much. My ped kinda blew me off until he had a meltdown in the office over something small. She handed me a card for a child psychiatrist. That man has been a god-send! He was immediately diagnosed with OCD. After months of trying different coping skills to no avail, he put him on a low dose of meds. Within a week, my sweet boy was back. Not zombie-ish, but sweet and fun and HAPPY! he has not been happy in months. We still work on his coping skills, try to help him control his anger and crazy mood swings, but the tantrums are down from multiple times a day to a few a week. He has been diagnosed as a mood disorder nos(not otherwise specified). His psychiatrist is very much leaning toward bipolar, but due to his age, won't diagnose so young. It has been a struggle, but he is doing 1000x better! I thought for so long I was a terrible mother, or that my divorce from his dad had something to do with it. The doc assured me that this was far more than acting out, it was too extreme. Talk to your doc. I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Over the last 2 years, I have had strangers tell me he needs discipline and give me dirty looks when I've had to take him out of places because he's freaking out. They have no idea he has issues. The medicine and ways to cope with his meltdowns have helped. He will even tell me he feels better and likes feeling happy. Makes me sad that he wasn't happy for the last 2 years. Good luck! Know you are not alone!
Am I overreacting?
- SevysMomma
on Jul. 1, 2012 at 11:42 PM