Hi my name is Laura-Ann and I am new to the group. I have two boys (Xavier 7 and Malachi 3 1/2) and a little girl Laylah-Marie who is 2. Both my boys potty trained around 3. My oldest was a little harder to train because of his lack of hearing and speech delay. But he was completely trained for both day and night time by 3 yrs 3 mns old. My second son Malachi started potty training a little after 2 1/2 and was completely potty trained a few mns before he turned 3. With both of my boys I didn't push the issue. When Xavier was about 1 1/2 I had people pressuring me to get him potty trained. They told me he should be done by 2 and so on. I tried but wasn't gonna fight it so I just decided he would decide when he was ready. And both him and malachi did.
So now here I am with a little girl. VERY unsure of the differences, whether she will trainer earlier or later. But I have people around me saying she should be trained by now. Whats the problem?, etc. Well when she was 15 mns old she started acting like she was ready. She did really well for about a week going pee on the potty, but just as fast as she started going she stopped. I just put her back in diapers and assumed she wasn't ready. She is now 25 mns old and she has no interest in training. I will put her on the potty and she refuses to go. I have tried potty seats and potty chairs, neither help. She will sit there and as soon as she gets up she will pee all over her self. BUT she does tell me when she pees or poops in her diaper. Needless to say I just decided she will potty train like the boys when she is ready.
So yesterday we go to visit some of Hubby's family. And their his cousin's daughter is just a few days younger then Laylah (and a LOT smaller) and she is potty trained. Her mom made a big deal about it and said that she would make her sit on the potty all day. She would give her toys there and her drink, food etc, and that if she got up she would get spanked. She would sit until she went. Then if she had an accident in her underwear she would also get spanked. She said it took 3 wks and she was trained. (Well with both the boys it only took about 2 days to train them because it was when they decided) So she said I should really do this etc etc.
Here is the thing, I just dont think its right. I really think if she was that ready she would go. And I think its kinda mean to get after her for something like that. I am all about spankings for good reasons like their safety but I just dont think potty training is a good reason to spank a child. I mean is it so important to have them trained at such a young age?? Should I really push her to train? Help ladies....how do you handle potty training??