She is doing well now but I'm not. My husband has always been a control freak, manipulative. I wanted to get her a kitten and he went nuts and said if I did he would move out. I've heard that many times before. Not something I needed to hear right now tho.
And now he brings up drama from the past and is mad at me because I'm mad at him and he "didn't do anything" i guess it's ok to yell at me like I'm his child, it's ok to threaten to move out to get your way. Of corse it is, if your him.
Now I've got a lil girl getting dropped off at 6am, been babysitting her for 2 years. So on top of tring to take care of my baby, I've got to care for another baby, home school my 9 yr old, run the house, worry about where we will live. I'm at the end of the line. I wanna quit my babysitting gig. Focus on my kiddos, find a full time night job, move the hell out!!
Wish I could sleep.
Best of luck sweetie. I hope everything works out for you. Have you told him you dont like the way he treats you and that you are not his child. I know I wouldnt even talk to or treat me child like he treats you. Im here if you need to talk. My husband used to be like that, but he really changed. I know it sound wierd b\c with the way he treats you now you could never imagine him changing, but maybe if you could find some way to get through to him. Like leaving for a while....you know, showing him that your not joking.That is if your still want to be with him
@mommieof3 - he was doing better for awhile. I've left before. I'm thinking I might have to remind him I don't have to put up with his crap. Moving out is my goal. He thinks life would be so much better without us, lets just see.
Thanks ladies. It's hard to have to deal with his childish crap and my daughters newly diagnosed diabetes. We might just be better off without him!
You sound like a very strong person with plenty on your plate to deal with each day.It sounds like he needs to help you more and treat you with so much more respect for all that you do.
Praying for you and I hope all works out for you-keep me posted! It sounds like you are a super mom and I am so glad the diabetes is under control
If the end result is going your separate ways or to work on the marriage.
If not you guys need to talk about fighting fair.
Threatening to move out or kick people out is not fighting fair and the past is the past. No-one can change the past, so don't bring it up.
I talk to him but I don't think he listens.
I'm sorry, sounds like you have your hands full. Hope everything goes well with your daughter.
Aww mama, I am so sorry to hear abotu this :(. You will manage, but you have to wake up everyday and say "i will manage what I have to do today". Everything else, write down in a notebook or calendar book to keep track of. That way you can prioritize your responsibilities. Even if you have to write down the most mundane things like "I need to wash dishes today". Then as you get those things done, cross them off.
You can do this, I know you can! Have you talked to your DH about how he says things.....and I don't mean in teh argument/conversaion that happens after he says it? Have you considered couples counseling? It sounds like he wants to be firm, but he doesnt' realize that what he says is actually degrading the relatinopship. My DH was (still kind of is) like that. He doesn't say exactly that all the time, but he does say some pretty mean things. I tell him when we aren't arguing that sometimes how he says things doesn't make me motivated to do things his way. Its too controlling and makes me just break down and want to turn the other way.
I also don't let him have his day. When he does threaten to leave, I say "go for it". But I don't play his game. I immediately walk away and end the conversation there. That REALLY bothers him.
Good luck and I hope that you guys can come to a middle ground with all of this. It's important, especially to your children.
Keep us updated on your daughter and how she's healing!
Am I overreacting?
- xMamaBearx
on Oct. 8, 2012 at 3:55 AM