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If I hear 'NO' one more time....... What do you do to curb the 'no' thing? My DS is 2.5 & it's getting ridiculous. He's got major attitude when he says it. My oldest didn't go through this so I'm not sure how to handle it. I've tried ignoring it, he just gets louder & more 'bully-ish' about it. Any suggestions?
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 9:47 AM
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 1:37 PM
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Ah ok, lol! And I won't say that, we do that already. Gets his attention and he knocks off whatever crap he's doing

Quoting corrinacs:

Yes, like flicking. Think of flicking a crumb off the table.....that motion LOL.  And if anyone says its abuse, he hurts himself more just walking up the stairs LOL

Quoting Mipsy:

What do you mean plucking? Like flicking? If you wanna pm me instead, I understand :)

Quoting corrinacs:

I go to plucking.  Its my slight form of corporeal punishment LOL.  I hate having to do it, but if the wniing and the "no" talking back gets bad enough....and taking away things and ignoring him doesn't work.....then I pluck his cheek when he says it.  Gets the point across real fast.  It doesn't hurt a like, but for some reason he HATES it.

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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:09 PM

Sorry, I have no advice.  My 2 1/2 year old is doing the same thing. Must be the age.  You said you had a older too. My Daughter is 5 and I don't remember her doing this. The little ones must pick it up from the older ones. Great! Good Luck

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:12 PM
Kids are trouble today! Lol my little guy is a walking attitude. Hes been visiting the corner quite a bit today. He hasn't quite started the "no" yet. Hes 1.5. His talking back is telling us to ssshhhhh.
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by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 2:24 PM

have you tried to not use the word no with him?

by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 5:15 PM
Quoting .Angelica.:

have you tried to not use the word no with him?

Yes- we only use 'no' for serious things. We usually use stop.
by on Oct. 11, 2012 at 6:21 PM

I don't know. I think I have dodged this fairly well since DS will at least listen after the first few times of me asking him something.

by Member on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:09 AM
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My 3 y/o DS is exactly the same way...I do see light at the end of the tunnel, though.  Personally, I just ignore it.  Example, we were sitting at the dinner table and DS wasn't eating, so in btw my bites, I would fork some food into his mouth.  He would chew for a minute and yell, "no, mommy!". A few mins later, I did it again...response was the same, "no mommy!".  He finished his entire meal this way.   I think it is their way of taking control, even if they don't know what to do when they get it.

Also, maybe refrain from asking yes/no questions or offering yes/no options and present the task as either "this or that".  That way you both win, you get to do what you want/need to do and he feels he has a say.

by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:19 AM

Quoting AnGLInterrupted:

Either ignore it completely; don't give any attention to the little outbursts..

Or..  you be consistant with punishment for backtalking you.

Basically those are your two option for ANY problems (like this) with young kids LOL.

I agree. I sarted with option 1 and ended with option 2, lol.

by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 10:58 AM
I told him it hurt my feelings when he spoke to me rudely like that, and he stopped. He's 3 now and will say it occasionally and if he's rude about it I say 'excuse me', and he changes his tone.
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by on Oct. 12, 2012 at 2:43 PM

I tell my 3.5 year old she can say no all she wants but I'm not going to give her what she wants.  Usually I'll have already explained why I am telling her to do something.

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