Ds just turned 4 this past week. Since about 2 years of age he has whined, and cried. And not just when something doesn't go his way. I mean over everything. "mom I want a drink. Mom I don't want to change. Mom K(my dd) touched me!" note the whine in each phrase. When I tell him to use his big boy words to ask/tell me something, it escalates into a tantrum. So I ignored the tantrum, reminding him once again, to use his words, then mommy will hear him, and continue about my business. The sitting on the floor crying and yelling at anyone coming his general direction can last as long as he's able. I, noticing the ignoring the tantrum wasn't working, started sitting him in a spot of the living room, that is our reading center/ relaxing zone, for a "break" to calm down, breath, and try again when he's calm. I have noticed some improvement with this, but not much. He will be sitting there, tears running, "mom I'm done crying!" as he cries. I have him sit for 4 minutes before I go and have him breath with me, and try calming him down. Not even a minute later, we repeat the entire process. I am about at my wits end with the whining. Scratch that, I am at my end. I've been trying these techniques for 2 years now with little to no change or improvement. Two years I'd hoped would have been enough for him to catch on and at least not whine as much. But very little has changed. Please tell me it's a phase that will end soon or what I'm doing wrong!
on Oct. 28, 2012 at 3:02 PM