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Posted by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 4:04 PM
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About 2 months ago my husband had knee surgery and was put on bed rest. During this time I was potty training our almost three year old girl. She started touching herself when we started potty training. I guess she figured out she had those parts when on the potty. Well she would also cuddle with her dad UNDER the covers.(my husband) here and there ever since she was about 2 iv caught her touching under her covers in her bed. But since she was going to the potty a lot she started doing it more.one time I went into the room my husband and her were in and the were cuddleing. When I sat down next to her she scooted over and I covered us up. And when I did that she put her hand straight down her pants. Now I'm wondering if he might have been touching her or if it was all just because of the potty? I brought all this up to him and now he doesn't cuddle with blankets over them. And now my daughter has also stopped touching herself. Idk if it was just a phase. Iv asked her if he touches her when they cuddle and she says "no" and she always wants to go cuddle with him. Like nothing is wrong. Any advice? I need help with all of this?
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melissaaytes
by Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 5:20 PM

I would not worry, my daughter cuddles with her daddy all the time!! Most little ones will touch themselves at some point.  Now if she says daddy touches me then you can worry!

som610
by Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 5:26 PM

Both my daughters have done it. They both started about 2 and my oldest is 5 and quit about a year ago and my youngest is 3 and still does it occasionally. They do it when they have nothing else to do with their hand (watching tv, riding in a car, going to bed, etc) Unless she says he does or you notice anything out of the ordinary with him I wouldn't worry about it.

luvnmykids1824
by on Nov. 13, 2012 at 5:41 PM
Well iv asked her if he does. And one time she told me " daddy touched her pee pee" but idk if I put that in her head by asking. The next day she said nothing happend and she will say I touch her too. I'm so lost.


Quoting melissaaytes:

I would not worry, my daughter cuddles with her daddy all the time!! Most little ones will touch themselves at some point.  Now if she says daddy touches me then you can worry!


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Ilaynasmommy
by Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 6:57 PM
DD is 3. Daddy is the primary caregiver. She climbs in bed with one or both of us. He caught her messing with herself one day and came and got me. He walked away and we had our first mommy daughter talk. I asked her what it was and she said privates. I didn't want her to feel pressure or that she did anything wrong. I told her I know it feels good and its ok to touch it but only when she is by herself in her own room. I wasn't sure if it would work but it seems to have.
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Luvmy2babies22
by Gold Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:33 PM

when my dd (she's 3 years 4 months now) trained 7 months ago she started touching herself a lot.  she would be red because she would just grab herself.  she found out she had a "tickle button" and she was exploring.  she rarely does it now.  she also climbs under the covers with my hubby. 

 

cammy002
by New Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:38 PM

she is a daddys girl

sweetleanne
by Member on Nov. 13, 2012 at 7:39 PM

Why is it that those who ask such question's have private profiles??

luvnmykids1824
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 9:18 AM
Why would I want everyone to know I was worried about this?


Quoting sweetleanne:

Why is it that those who ask such question's have private profiles??


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.Angelica.
by Angie on Nov. 14, 2012 at 10:07 AM

it is normal for kids to get curious about their bodies. did your husband not realize she was doing it? If you trust him I would say it's just a phase. but if you feel something else is going on I would probably look into it.

luvnmykids1824
by on Nov. 14, 2012 at 1:19 PM
When she scooted over to me and started touching I said " stop that" and when he heard me say that my husband asked "what is she doing?" I told him she was touching herself. So I guess he didn't know. He broke my trust plenty of times in the past. But nothing that had to do with sexual abuse. I think I just don't trust him with anything. I'm the type of person that finds it hard to trust ppl. Idk I just thought it was all weird.I asked her that night if daddy touched her when they were cuddling and she said "no" and then I asked if she was telling the truth and she said "yes" but there have been other times were she tells me he has touched her. So idk if she is just confused from me asking. I have stopped asking her and she doesn't say he touches her now.


Quoting .Angelica.:

it is normal for kids to get curious about their bodies. did your husband not realize she was doing it? If you trust him I would say it's just a phase. but if you feel something else is going on I would probably look into it.


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