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bedtime nightmare.

Posted by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:23 PM
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So my son will be 3 in February. He has his own room with his own toddler bed. We have been trying to get him to sleep in his room by himself. It's not working. We can't seem to get him to lay on his bed and fall asleep. It's just at night though. During the day I can get him to nap in his. At night he wants to be anywhere we are to fall asleep. I don't understand. I've tried sleeping in his room with him and he won't do it. Any suggestions??

by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:23 PM
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Luvmy2babies22
by Platinum Member on Dec. 18, 2012 at 9:34 PM

where does he fall asleep then?  what do you do after he's asleep?  does he seem scared of the dark?  have you tried something like a dream light type of a toy that shoots the moon and stars around the room?  my kids have one (different brand) and they LOVE them!

juniors_momma
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:09 PM

just where ever we are. if we are in the living room he's sleepin on the couch. if we are in the room he'll sleep on the bed. I try to move him to his room after he's asleep. He's not scared of the dark. he will walk in his bedroom  pitch dark and turn the light on and start playing. We leave a night light on for him. Maybe one that shoots light all around the room would work better. i'm just at a stand still..

Quoting Luvmy2babies22:

where does he fall asleep then?  what do you do after he's asleep?  does he seem scared of the dark?  have you tried something like a dream light type of a toy that shoots the moon and stars around the room?  my kids have one (different brand) and they LOVE them!


hollydaze1974
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:19 PM
The stars work for mine, too. I add a white noise machine, too. I set it to rain. This KEEPS him asleep. We were having three am wake ups before the sound machine.
Sometimes it isn't the dark..,, it's the " too quiet"
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juniors_momma
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:23 PM

That makes alot of sense. I'm gunna have to try that. :) thank you.

Quoting hollydaze1974:

The stars work for mine, too. I add a white noise machine, too. I set it to rain. This KEEPS him asleep. We were having three am wake ups before the sound machine.
Sometimes it isn't the dark..,, it's the " too quiet"


ZakkarysMom
by on Dec. 18, 2012 at 10:24 PM
I run a fan in my son's room. Obviously facing away from him in winter months.


Quoting hollydaze1974:

The stars work for mine, too. I add a white noise machine, too. I set it to rain. This KEEPS him asleep. We were having three am wake ups before the sound machine.

Sometimes it isn't the dark..,, it's the " too quiet"

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caitlynevansmom
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 7:33 AM
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We do sound machine too. We live near the airport. Try sitting in a chair by his bed until he falls asleep. The first few nights might be tough. Just reassure him and try not to hold/touch him as he's falling asleep. He will then depend on it. Every 3 nights move further and further away from the bed. Stay in your chair until he falls asleep. Eventually you'll work your way out of the room. If he wakes in the middle of the night, escort him back to his room and then sit in the chair until he falls asleep. Make sure the chair is in the same spot it was for bedtime. This process worked with my kids.
itsm3
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 4:26 PM
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you have to be firm.  if you keep giving in, he will never sleep in there. your night routine should end where he needs to sleep so after bath, take him to his room and read books/cuddle and then lay him in bed.  you can sit by his bed and keep tucking him in if he tries to get out.  keep doing that.  it'll have to be done like, a million times but if your'e consistent, it'll work. don't talk.  just say nothing and tuck him back in and say "good night".  that's it.

you can use a reward chart to incent him (explain what it is first) and then stick by it.  keep sitting in his room and then once he gets used to it (takes about a week/week and a half), the slowly move your chair closer and closer to the door.  never turn the light on when he tries to get out of bed; you want to show him that it's bedtime.  the more firm/consisten you are, the faster he will adjust/get used to it.


amc103
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 4:30 PM

This is great advice! Also, maybe he's getting too much sleep during the day and its harder for him to sleep at night. He might not care where he falls asleep if he's tired enough. :-) Maybe a nap every other day? Or every 3 days? Thats what we do with my DS.

Quoting itsm3:

you have to be firm.  if you keep giving in, he will never sleep in there. your night routine should end where he needs to sleep so after bath, take him to his room and read books/cuddle and then lay him in bed.  you can sit by his bed and keep tucking him in if he tries to get out.  keep doing that.  it'll have to be done like, a million times but if your'e consistent, it'll work. don't talk.  just say nothing and tuck him back in and say "good night".  that's it.

you can use a reward chart to incent him (explain what it is first) and then stick by it.  keep sitting in his room and then once he gets used to it (takes about a week/week and a half), the slowly move your chair closer and closer to the door.  never turn the light on when he tries to get out of bed; you want to show him that it's bedtime.  the more firm/consisten you are, the faster he will adjust/get used to it.



itsm3
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 6:35 PM

i forgot to mention that at 18mos, it's very common for kids to go through a HUGE sleep regression where they act like they don't want to nap but trust me, they do. this phases lasts a good 4wks.  my dd went through it -- for 4wks she acted like she didn't want to nap but she was TIRED by the time it was dinner so i would put her down 1hr earlier for the night for 4wks and she passed out and slept for like, 13hrs straight every time.   kids are not ready to go without a nap until closer to 2/3yo.  just put him to bed 30-60mins earlier for the night if he skips his nap or has a bad nap. after 4wks, he'll return to normal.   if he's still on 2 naps, drop 1 nap, move bedtime earlier by 1hr (temporary bedtime) and then give him time to adjust.  

sadiebug1228
by on Dec. 19, 2012 at 8:10 PM
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try having him pick out his own sheets or bedset and his own night light. even if its pink or something just let him pick it out. and tell him he can have these things only if he tries to be a good boy and sleep in his own room.

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