My Mom came to stay with us for a few days around the holidays. My son is in pre-k and happened to have his school Christmas party the next day. Originally we both were going to go to the party and take my newborn and my 2 year old. Then my newborn comes down with RSV so I couldn't take him. I asked my Mom would she watch him for a few so I could still go and be there for my son. All the other parents come and watch the kids perform a few songs, eat food, mingle, etc. My Mom said that she really wanted to go and said she doesn't get to see this type of stuff very often. I told her I wanted to be there for him since all the other parents would be there. She tells me that she could be there for him and then says " well how about we ask him and let him decide who he wants to be there". She is talking about asking a 4 year old who he would rather be at his school party...his mom or his grandma! I was so upset about her evening asking/thinking this. I just told her that no I don't want to do that. I want to be there for him since he said he wanted me there. She then suggests that we take turns standing in the corner with my rsv newborn and hanging out with my son. I am just so taken back by it all. I was curious what others may think of this situation. Thanks!