See what CafeMoms are saying about saving time this holiday season..
Any ideas on how to help my four-year-old only child through loneliness? After any playdate/party/whatever that involves children with siblings, she comes home tired and stressed out, and cries herself to sleep. Every time I put her down for the night, it's an hour-long, abject bawling wail: "Mommy don't leave me, I'm so lonely, I wish I had another one of me to go to sleep with," etc. I'd chalk it up to being overly tired, but the next day she wakes up subdued and repeats the same things, just without the crying.
A second child cannot happen for a variety of reasons, many of them medical. But our home life is stable and reasonably comfortable, my daughter has friends at preschool, she's involved in TKD, I take her to playgrounds, museums, etc., and she has me as a playmate _all_ day no matter what. So all in all, she's not hurting...and yet she is.
I feel like the absolute worst mother in the world when I hear her wailing, because I'm the one who made the choice not to try for another one. I've explained to her that her daddy and I decided to stop at one kid because, well, we felt like we'd hit the kid lottery on the first try (which is true). We also wanted to be the best parents we could be--and for my husband and I, who are both over 40, one child was the best choice...or so we thought.
So, any ideas would be greatly appreciated...because I feel like H*** about it, and apparently so does my sweet girl.