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She doesn't seem to like her father much

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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My 2 1/2 year old daughter doesn't like her father much.  I have no idea why.  We are still happily married, live in the same house, etc.  He does work nights, and I work days.  It has always seemed to be this way, but it's been really bad lately, to the point where she screams for him to "MOVE AWAY" and tries to hit him. 

Help!

Posted by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 2:46 PM
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kristinas8
by Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:09 PM

 I would wonder if something was going on behind your back that your not aware of. You can try playing dolls if she speaks pretty well. Let her play the daddy and you play the child. Don't press for info just see where the play goes. Hope it helps.

KRIZZ25
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:11 PM
ITS THE AGE..DON'T READ IN TO IT TO MUCH ..SHE WILL GET OVER IT..NO WIF SHE WAY TO RUN ,YELL EVERY TIME SH ESEES HIM I WOULD THANK SOMETHING WAS UP ..BUT GIVE IT TIME..AND LET THEM SPEND TIME TOGETHER WTH OUT MAMA..
mylilprincesses
by on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:20 PM
she needs to have one on one time with him then maybe it will stop. when my oldest was the only child.. she was closer to me than hre father but once we had our middle child he took care of her more.... now she is a daddys girl.

iansmommy9
by Bronze Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:24 PM

Is he the more strict parent? My son is the same age and goes back and forth as to who he wants to be with based on discipline. If I'm making him walk a straight line, then daddy is who he wants.

kirstensmommie
by Member on Jan. 16, 2013 at 3:26 PM
Have them spend alone time together with out you.
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.Angelica.
by Angie on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:22 AM
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my son was like that sometimes. still is at 5. :/

l3suggs
by New Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:27 AM

They have a wonderful time together after I leave in the morning for work, and he gets her ready for daycare.  She's loving and kind.  They play everything from cars to tea party.  If I am in the room, however, it's a totally different story.  She's clingy and almost fearful of him.  This to me makes no sense.  Some mornings when I am in the shower, I hear her screaming for him to "walk away" and he's only gone into her room because she was calling for me, and I am unavailable.  It's super stressful for me that she is so intolerant of her father.  I am hoping it's her age, but sometimes I just don't know.

kellymarie323
by on Jan. 17, 2013 at 8:44 AM
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I think its the age. My dd is the same but opposite. When her daddy is home, I don't exist. If I try to talk to him...kiss him... Forget it! She gets so mad. That's HER daddy, not MY Jerry lol. She has never told me to go away. She just wants daddy to do everything for her when he is here.

Recently though I've been doing time out because this has gotten too stressful. Too many tantrums. I read on here not to give in to the crying or demanding, to ignore and put them in a "safe place"

This morning it worked for the first time. Daddy had to use bathroom. Brylee was screaming because she wanted daddy to hold her. I offered to hold her and the screaming intensified. Calmly and quietly I picked her up, sat her in the corner and said " If you are bad and cry, mommy can't listen to you. Daddy needs daddy time too, Brylee IS okay."

Within a minute she was quiet. She looked at me and said I'll be good. I had to get her coat so I went and did that. Gave her another minute to see if she would stay calm. She did. So then I gave her a hug and reminded her how happy mommy is when she is a good girl :)
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PEEK05
by Kendall on Jan. 17, 2013 at 11:49 AM

That's pretty bad. I would say it's normal for them to prefer one parent over another at this age but that seems extreme.

debramommyof4
by Member on Jan. 17, 2013 at 1:41 PM
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 My 2 1/2 year old was like this her whole life till recently.  I got tired of her always calling for me and crying for me when I was home and Daddy was home and she just wanted me.  So I would not take her.  I started having him do everything for her when we were both home, from comforting her to playing and changing her.  It helped now though I am still her favorite she will accept him if I am busy.

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