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Help, development delays?

Posted by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:22 PM
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 My daughter will be 4 in July and I am highly concerned about her development in some areas. She is extremely smart as far as she has a huge vocabulary, she can count, she picks up on things very fast. But she is struggling in some areas that I would consider more basic. We started potty training at 18 months and we're still struggling two years later. I have tried every method, most of them more than once. For the past month and a half I have been having her sit on the potty every 45 minutes and wear underwear. This has helped with her peeing, but she still will not go to the bathroom on her own. This means almost every bm is in her pants, and she won't tell me when she has an accident. She will just sit in it until I notice.
She doesn't like to use silverware, she prefers to use her hands. This has made meal and snack times a constant battle. She doesn't like loud noises or yelling, it scares her. Though not to the point where she won't run around screaming with her brother (2) and sister (5). She always has something in her mouth usually her hair, shirtsleeve, or the neck of her shirt (most often its her hair), and she will still put almost anything in her mouth, not necessarily to eat but just in her mouth. She gets "lost" in her own little world a lot. Sometimes to the point where you have to shake her or practically yell in her face to snap her out of it. She gets very into her activities whether it be watching tv or playing with toys. She has trouble maintaining focus if she isn't interested in the topic. She is good with others, adults and children, but prefers to be alone. Most often she's on her own, separate from the group. I am worried she might have some developmental delay, even though she really is super smart. I have brought it up to her doctor before and he hasn't shown concern.

If anyone has any ideas I'd really appreciate it! Thanks ladies!


 


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by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:22 PM
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emkirkley
by Silver Member on Feb. 1, 2013 at 12:28 PM
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Personal opinion, as the mother of a child with sensory issues, request a referal to an OT or developmental specialist.  She sounds like she has sensory issues and could be on the high functioning end of the Autism spectrum.

hwifeandmom
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 1:03 PM
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You can get developmental testing done through a neuropsychologist or developmental pediatrician.  There are often long waiting lists for developmental testing.  Testing is done primarily through play, and the parent will answer a LOT of questionnaires.  For me, I tend to forget things when put on the spot to answer questions about my kids' behaviors, so I found it helpful to write down and take with me a list of behaviors I saw in my child.  The doctors may also want a copy of that list.

Two of my kids are on the the mild end of the autism spectrum (very smart in some areas, deficits in other areas).  They were 8 & 12 years old before they were diagnosed because the doctor dismissed my concerns over the years.  Individually, none of their symptoms was very concerning.  It wasn't until I wrote down a list of symptoms and gave it to the pediatrician that she could see the bigger picture and realize that there may be some developmental delays.

I personally think it's better to get testing done early and find out your child has no developmental problems than to wait several years and miss the opportunity to get supports for a child who needs it.

tml06451
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:34 PM

 thank you ladies! I see the doctor again on monday and I am starting a list! What were some of the signs you saw in your own children if you don't mind my asking?

.Angelica.
by Angie on Feb. 1, 2013 at 3:38 PM
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bump. i don't have any experience here.

hwifeandmom
by on Feb. 1, 2013 at 9:17 PM

Very smart for their age, and just KNOWING the info without really being taught (dd picked up a note to the babysitter when she was 4yrs old and read the whole thing to me -- shocked me).  Phenomenal memories for tons of random facts (you want them on your team if you play Trivial Pursuit).

Poor coordination.  Falling a hundred times a day for no reason.  Couldn't dress or undress self.  Couldn't manipulate scissors in kindergarten for cutting/pasting work.  Illegible handwriting.  Couldn't tie shoes, zip coat, etc.

My dd was an early and very articulate speaker, using above-age words in proper context.  She sounded like a little grownup.  My ds was a delayed talker.

Not always knowing how to socialize with other kids properly (dd would discuss my c-section with kids she just met, rather than talking about toys or other mutual interests).  She'd chew on her dolls rather than play with them as babies.

Illogical.  If son was looking for his shoes, he'd look at walls and ceiling, rather than floor.  Couldn't find things in plain sight.

Very literal.  Very honest in some areas (would tattle on self if they did something wrong at home).

Sensory problems.  Couldn't tell when they needed to go to the bathroom until it was too late.  Never noticed if they were covered in dirt.  Even if their hands were super sticky, they didn't notice.  Always had hands in their food.  Didn't want to use utensils, both because they were difficult to manipulate and because they enjoyed the sensory pleasure of having their hands in their food.  Oversensitive to certain sounds.

Poor hygiene.  Didn't see necessity to wipe bottom after using toilet, wash hands, brush teeth or hair, take baths, etc.

Tantrums more frequent, last longer, then end abruptly.

Super picky eaters.  Didn't like solid foods as a baby.  Once they started eating, they were extremely rigid in the foods they'd eat.

I know there were other issues, but these are some I can think of off-hand.  Despite their various issues, my kids look and behave mostly normally.  No one really ever thought my kids had any problems, esp when they were younger and their behaviors were not necessarily that extremely different.  My gut instinct told me something was off, but friends and doctors always dismissed my concerns.  Their symptoms became more pronounced as they got older and more was expected of them, which is when I started pushing harder for answers.


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 thank you ladies! I see the doctor again on monday and I am starting a list! What were some of the signs you saw in your own children if you don't mind my asking?



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