My daughter will be 4 in July and I am highly concerned about her development in some areas. She is extremely smart as far as she has a huge vocabulary, she can count, she picks up on things very fast. But she is struggling in some areas that I would consider more basic. We started potty training at 18 months and we're still struggling two years later. I have tried every method, most of them more than once. For the past month and a half I have been having her sit on the potty every 45 minutes and wear underwear. This has helped with her peeing, but she still will not go to the bathroom on her own. This means almost every bm is in her pants, and she won't tell me when she has an accident. She will just sit in it until I notice.
She doesn't like to use silverware, she prefers to use her hands. This has made meal and snack times a constant battle. She doesn't like loud noises or yelling, it scares her. Though not to the point where she won't run around screaming with her brother (2) and sister (5). She always has something in her mouth usually her hair, shirtsleeve, or the neck of her shirt (most often its her hair), and she will still put almost anything in her mouth, not necessarily to eat but just in her mouth. She gets "lost" in her own little world a lot. Sometimes to the point where you have to shake her or practically yell in her face to snap her out of it. She gets very into her activities whether it be watching tv or playing with toys. She has trouble maintaining focus if she isn't interested in the topic. She is good with others, adults and children, but prefers to be alone. Most often she's on her own, separate from the group. I am worried she might have some developmental delay, even though she really is super smart. I have brought it up to her doctor before and he hasn't shown concern.
If anyone has any ideas I'd really appreciate it! Thanks ladies!