14mo TERRIFIED of her Grandparents! Need major help-Baby #2 due soon!
Around 9months old she started freaking out if her grandparents held her (both my parents and my DF's parents). We see them probably 2-4 times a month. We thought it was a phase that she would get over quickly but here we are at almost 15 months old! We have tried so many things to get her comfortable with them. We started going once a week for dinner to his (df) parents house. They can come up to her but can't pick her up. And they can't come up to her until she's gotten comfortable which takes maybe 10-15 minutes.
She will only let me and DF and my best friend hold her. When we go out to eat or shopping she is so friendly to everybody. With baby #2 coming I am really freaking out!! I go to my moms and just sit on the couch the 3 of us(my mom, dd, and myself) and she starts getting warmed up to my mom after a while. But if I leave the room she freaks. She really freaks if I leave the room at my inlaws, even if her daddy is holding her.
Sorry so long and all over the place! Also, Our pedi said at her 1 yr checkup that there's nothing really you can do but give it time and let her grow out of it. And not to force the issue. I'm a SAHM and know she is a little too attached to me but my bff watches her sometimes and she doesn't even care If I leave. I want her to be like that with her grandparents but it just does not seem to be happening! Any advice will be greatly appreciated. Thanks so much!