Being Told to Spank My DD as part of Potty Training...What the???? (May be long...sorry!)
Somebody please help me! I'm having potty training challenges which is nothing unusual for a 3 year old I suppose. I'm trying my hardest to get her trained and although she's showed all of the signs of being ready to potty train, she's stubborn and just won't go. So I've been asking other Moms about tips for potty training and a surprising number of folks have told me to spank her when she goes in her pants. I don't know if it matters but I live in the south where "spare the rod spoil the child' is a mantra. I have chosen not to spank and don't want to turn this into a spanking vs not spanking debate. I would just like to try to understand why anyone would spank as part of potty training and is this really effective at all? Even though my methods are ineffective and it may take longer I'm just not willing to spank my child and certainly not over potty issues.
Now with that being said is there anything that I can do to encourage her to go? She has tons of toys and the whole "sticker chart ---> treat" thing just doesn't work. Snack treats don't work either. She is able to stay dry for long periods of time and is aware when she's wet or has a poopy pull-up. That's when she asks to be changed (she says "Change Pull-up). She is speech delayed and doesn't appear to have a word for potty. She DOES know the word potty but doesn't seem to associate it with HER going to potty - she thinks it's what the dogs do when they go outside. We take her to potty when she first gets up in the morning, we take her after naps, we ask her if she wants to go often and sometimes even make her go sit on the potty. She always at least squeezes out a few drops and sometimes even truly goes when she sits on the pot.. She seems to understand what the potty is there for but also has no problems going in her clothes. She knows where the clean panties are and goes and gets herself a clean pair and brings them to me. I've tried taking away the pull-ups but end up cleaning up literally 10-12 puddles and messes in less than 2 hours. I work during the day so the potty training happens after I've picked her up from daycare. The daycare teachers are working with her too but they're having the same luck. She's super smart and they're trying to move her up to the 3 year old classroom but since she isn't potty trained she's still in the class with the 2 year olds.
My DD is 3 years old (3 years and almost 4 months to be more exact). I keep reading posts on CM from parents who have kids trained at 2. It seems that my kid may not be trained for a long time yet. Is there anything else I can do ( and please don't mention spanking) to encourage her? I'm super frustrated but don't show it to her. I'm not sure if my not showing frustration makes her think it's still OK to go in her pants. Can anyone offer any other tips other than the usual ones?
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