I don't usually post but I need some help.
I have a 5 year old boy. He wasn't fully potty trained until about 4.5
He's now going to preschool. He's in pre k.
When he first started, everything was fine. I didn't get any reports about potty issues. Then, about 2 months ago they complained that he doesn't wipe his own butt. He doesn't ask for help, he will just sit in the bathroom and wait for someone to notice he's been in there for a while.
They said I need to try getting him to wipe on his own at home. So, I started telling him he needs to learn to wipe his own butt. I showed him how. He refused at first and then finally tried. It was like he was half assing it. He wouldn't wipe correctly and he'd end up getting it all over the place so I had to take over and clean him up.
This went on for a couple of weeks.
I started getting complaints at school about him having accidents and now not even making it to the potty on time.
I felt like maybe he was regressing and wasn't ready to wipe on his own. I talked with the teachers and they agreed that they didn't want him having accidents or feeling bad so they said they would help him and I went back to just wiping for him.
Today, I went to pick him up and apparently he had an accident while he was in "rug" time. One of the teachers could smell it and asked if he had to go, or already had. He said no. They asked him a couple more times and he still said no. They checked and yup, he already went in his pants.
I talked with the teacher and she thinks we should go back to having him wipe again. She also suggested I talk to his doctor, which I plan on.
I just don't get it. Has anyone else had a hard time getting their child to wipe on their own? My oldest son just got it and had no problems.
I'm not sure what to do. Of course I know he needs to wipe himself, I just thought that since he did potty train so late, he'd be a little later with the wiping too.
Any advice? Thanks in advance.