my kids have never fought bedtime. it's just never been up for debate. our routine has always been the same and they just know it's lights out time. with that said, we also are pretty relaxed in our rules. once they left the crib we allow them to get up if they want. our rules are 1) lights stay off and 2) you stay in your room. whatever you can do by the light of a night light is all on you. i won't play the "get back in bed" game. they rarely do anything after bedtime other than rolling around in their beds. what i believe is that just because I say it's bedtime doesn't mean they are totally ready to shut down. i know that there are nights where i don't just go right to sleep and they are no different. as long as they follow our 2 rules, they get to control how they wind down before sleeping.
My 3 yr old likes for me to pat her to sleep. I've found that the first 5-10 minutes she's in her bed she is squirmy so I tell her I need to go get in my pajamas and she has to stay in her bed, but I will return in a few minutes and pat her. It works for us...I went to pat her tonight and it took all of 2 minutes and she was out. I also tell her that if she gets out of bed she will not have any tv time tomorrow....she doesn't get a lot so she wants the time she does get so for her that's her currency so it works in getting her to stay put. Now of course we're to where we are b/c we first tested that and did lose tv time the next day....now she has learned and it works. So if you try it know he/she will test it and lose once to see that you are serious so that will be a rough night, but if it's something that is important to him/her your words will mean more the next time you tell him/her to stay in bed.
my dd still has a knob cover on her door. oddly enough she's never even tried to get past it and she's over 3 1/2 :) once my son learned to get it off, we put a gate in his door.
remember that kids will ALWAYS fight bedtime...why wouldn't they? they'd much rather stay up and play/hang out with mommy and daddy than go to sleep which in their mind, is way boring.
but, remember that like healthy eating habits you want to instill in them, healthy sleep habits are equally as important. so be firm! rountine is very important. make routine something they look forward to. my dd's routine starts around 630pm and she loves the story time before bed. we read a couple of books all cuddled and snuggled up in her bed and then it's lights out at 715pm. sometimes she tries to fight it but we're very firm with bedtime and she knows the drill.
Quoting mommyofnoah208:Routine routine! My son will still fight it some. But you just have to stick to it, do a routine, give a warning that its almost time and after the getting ready for bed routine sit with him. Read a book and say goodnight. Good luck!
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At a young age we would just lay them down and they would put themselves to sleep. Yes every know and then we have issues. What kids doesn't.
We have a bedtime routine. They know it's time to calm down when we go up to brush teeth, get jammies on and read a story. We say our goodnight and walk out of the room. They know they're not allowed to get out of bed.
We don't have any toys in their room except the one toy or stuffed animal they take to bed with them. They can play with them, as long as they're in their bed.
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