*DISCLAIMER* I'm not talking about anything even remotely sexual here. This is strictly a question about healthy parent-child relationships and how nudity factors into that relationship.
Okay, so I was wondering what other moms thought on this subject. I had a conversation with my fiance a couple of weeks ago that got me thinking about it. We have a 20-month-old daughter who recently went through a phase where she absolutely hated baths. It got to the point that she was so traumatized, I would only bathe her two or three times a week.
Then, my fiance suggested one night that I get in the tub with her. So I peeled off my clothes and jumped in there. It was an instant cure. After she was put to bed, I told him how brilliant of an idea it was, and during the course of the conversation, he made the comment that it just wouldn't be right if he got in there with her, because he just wouldn't feel comfortable being naked around her.
It confounded me, and I asked him why he wasn't comfortable with the idea. I found out that his reason is simply because he's a guy and she's a girl. If we had a son, he feels like he would be much more comfortable being nude around him. I am not necessarily a nudist, but I've always been comfortable with my body and walking around either completely naked or wearing nothing but a pair of underwear. And I don't think I'd be uncomfortable at all being naked around a son, just as I am not uncomfortable being naked around my daughter.
But I guess I can understand how men might feel a little uncomfortable being nude around their daughters, especially with sexual abuse and pedophilia being such hot-button issues. Also, toddlers are curious, and there have been times (especially when she was breast-feeding) that he would be shirtless, and she'd take a huge interest in his nipples. Once, she even tried to suckle from him, which of course made me laugh hysterically for hours. So, I think he would be uncomfortable with her seeing his penis and being curious about it, perhaps even wanting to touch it. Still, I know he loves his daughter, and it seems strange that he would be uncomfortable being nude around her, when he doesn't think he would be as uncomfortable being nude around a son.
So I'm wondering what some other moms have to say on this subject. I understand that, for a lot of people, it's a touchy subject, so I ask that we all respect the opinions and lifestyles of others. I'm really just trying to get a feel for what other families do in regards to nudity or bathing together. Obviously, I must say again that I'm not talking about anything sexual here. I'm strictly talking about healthy parent-child relationships and how nudity fits into that equation, if at all.
I personally don't see myself being more guarded about my body as my daughter grows older. I want her to be comfortable with her own body and possibly spare her from any self image or self esteem issues when she gets to those difficult teen years, especially since I've read from numerous medical essays and articles that one of the biggest causes of teen pregnancy and having sex at a young age is due to self-esteem issues of young girls. So any thoughts or advice would be fantastic!