Quoting mers-mom:Research love and logic
he wont sit because you arent consistent, even if you have to keep putting him in there 100 times, you need to do it so he knows you mean business and until he stays for the 2 minutes. He will eventually stay.
who is in charge of his timeout, him or you? he will sit because you are the parent and you said sit. if he gets up, you don't say one word, you march him back to the spot and set him down. you do this again and again until.... if it takes 3 hours for him to sit for 2 mins then that's what has to happen. he has to learn to respect that you say what you mean and mean what you say. right now he's running you... it's not the punishment that's not working, it's the punisher...
Be consistent. If you have to put him back in time-out 100 times, do it. It's a pain, but eventually they get it. For us, time-outs didn't work. I would put DD back over and over again, but essentially they just weren't effective for her. We do a lot of distraction and using her favorite toys as leverage.
You have to be firm and consistent. I know it takes some time and everything seems ineffective, but only because the discipline isn't really being carried through.
I found that time outs didn't work when I wasn't consistent with them.
I would get frustrated and give up.
I stopped giving up. If they got up, I put them right back in time out. It didn't matter if I had to do that 20 times, I wasn't giving up. They saw that and eventually stayed in their time out.
Now, all I have to do is give a warning for a time out and they straighten up real quick.
This is hard, but stay firm on the time outs. I know how you feel, they fight you till the end don't they. I have to put my kids in the corner and step away, tell them why they're in there of course, but make them stay in there. Start over the "time out" everytime they get up or turn around. Hopefully he starts to listen, he is 2 so I say this freely. I have a 3 year old and 23 month old, I wish they listened more!
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