Childproofing...How safe do YOU think this is? PIOG ----Edit in blue in original post
My ex is getting some visitation with my child. Since he doesn't have his own place, he's seeing her at his parents' home. This is getting really ugly with him as he's the one involving court and has a nasty lawyer (that his parents are paying for). He wasn't even there with me during this pregnancy or birth, but it is what it is now. She is currently 15 months old.
He wants overnights with her too, and this is where I'm trying to draw the line and that's why it's getting nasty. He thinks they have child proofed his parents' home great. I don't think so.
Check out this picture of their living room and tell me what you think.
Notice the couch with the half wall directly behind it with the knick knacks. Behind that wall you can look directly down into the basement. You can also see the baby gate they are using, and it is not mounted into the wall. It is the kind with the spring action. If Vanessa presses hard enough against it, she will knock it down the stairs and fall down the stairs with it.
I feel it is a big safety issue. Does anyone think I'd be taking it too far if I had child protective services look into the child proofing that they've done? I don't want ANY problems with his family, but we are talking about the safety of my child here. If she were to go over that ledge, it could kill her. I also think she could climb over that safety gate too.
The couch/wall and gate were my only real scary concerns. Some of you pointed out some others that I hadn't thought of. It's always so difficult to talk to my lo's father because most of the time he's unwilling to take constructive criticism. I did ask that they concider putting up a wall mounted gate at the top of those stairs and asked they get on as tall as possible because she is a climber. I also suggested they pull that couch out, at least while she's there. He had that look like I was the one being difficult, until I said "If she falls over and gets killed, 'Kim, I'm sorry I should have listened to you' won't bring her back". He said he'd pull the couch away from the wall and see what he could do about the gate. That's the most I can hope for.
As far as the lamp and curio cabinet (that I had not thought about posing any threat), I did not mention those because I don't want him to think I'm going to far with it.
So all I can do is hope for the best. Thank you ladies for your help. I posted this topic in 3 groups, this one had the most conversation about it. I appreciated not getting bashed (for the most part) because it isn't my intention to fight with her father. I only want her as safe as possible while she's there.