My son was born when i was 7 months pregnant when an accidental hole was punctered in my water when the nurse was trying to move him off my siatic nerve when i went in to the doctors in horrible pain , for three days with my water already broken they kept me from having labor by pumping me with magnesium until he just wouldnt stay in. he was in the nicu for 1 1/2 months because he never learned to suck and was on a feeding tube , My last post i posted about my son turning two now and not eating, doctors kept telling me from ages 1+ he was a picky eater and as he got older he would grow out of it or understand me enough that i could take the bottle away or they kept telling me because he was born so early that he would be a few months behind. he is now two and can only drink out of a bottle and the same bottle that he has had forever now, he doesnt know how to physically use a sippy cup and he will not eat food, he will put food to his mouth but only to lick it and when he chews he gags and never swallows, he is not a picky eater he literally can not eat. I have been getting so overwhelmed with these doctors ive been to so many but i feel like they dont get it. Recently his eating has not been the only problem, as he has gotten older and milestones have come that he has not gotten to i am starting to get concerened . in my last post about the eating people mentioned he needed a eating therapist to work with him but now i fear it is much more deeper. my son can literally not use a fork or knife , understands me only enough that i can call him and he will come but i cant ask him something, i cant be like are you hungry and get a yes or no. he doesnt speak much physical words but is constantly baby babaling and when he does speak it is not clear, i see other two year olds can say im hungry or little sentences and he can not, he can say pretty much mom dad bottle and no, very very basic things. my son is very smart mentally though as at two years old he can literally work every electronic in the house and he understands how to take things apart and buid things i feel most two years can not. lately my other concern is he has gotten so out of control way past terrible twos, no amount of spanking, timeouts, yelling or taking away from toys has done anything, they dont even seem to phase him and he doesnt seem to understand what he is doing is wrong or bad, he freaks out over the littlest things , i tried to give him a new tooth brush the other day and i literally had to hold his arms down from swinging just to brush his teeth, little tasks like changing is diaper, or getting him dressed, or even trying to talk to him escalades into him screaming throwing himself back and just freaking out. ive tried so many different ways to disapline him that i feel its not a form of acting out but that hes trying to communicate and he doesnt know how, i know your not supposed to compare your kids to others but its hard to see my son not be able to do things like eat and talk and just be good that a child much younger than him can do, my husband and i are so overwhelemed we literally can not take him in public, just a few months ago i could bring him places and now everything is awful, we were even asked to leave a resturant last week because he was screaming and distrurbing the other guest. my doctor now has told me to take him to a nuerologist but left it at that she didnt say maybe we should look into this or it could possibly be that she just handed me a card, im freaked out to take him and people all around me keep saying maybe its adhd or hes autistic and people look at me and tell me i need to get a grip on m child when they really dont understand the core of it . i cant get my son into the nuerologist until almost early september as there is no openings, is anyone else going through this or knows about this? Sorry about the horrible misspelling but my son is on my lap trying to type as i type! thank you all for reading my posts!