Let me start by telling you a little background of my daughters sleeping habits. She was always a co-sleeper until about 6 months ago. Since then she's been sleeping in her own bed in her own room. To make the adjustment easier (on both of us) I had been staying in her bed cuddling until she fell asleep. We have a pretty regular bedtime routine with bath, reading stories, snuggles and sleep, but sometimes (lately more often than not) the "snuggling" part goes on and on for upwards of an hour before she falls asleep. Often I wind up falling asleep which wouldn't be such a big deal if my boyfriend and I didn't work opposite schedule but often our only time alone together is after she's asleep.
I want to keep our same routine just let her doing the falling asleep part on her own. We both have tried talking to her about it, telling her she's a big girl and doesn't need anything but happy thoughts and sleepy eyes to fall asleep but when the time comes leave the room she freaks out about it.
I've had a few sucessful naps and bedtimes but it is still mostly a struggle. Tonight for example, we did our bath book and cuddling then I laid with her for awhile told her to go to sleep and that I was going to go get ready for bed too. She says "no mommy wait more cuddles" I tell her ill be back. Before I can return she's up looking for me. I lay her back down cuddle again until I think she's asleep this time cuz now it's getting late and I don't want to drag out bedtime. Nope not actually asleep and when I tell her it's too late and she just needs to go to bed she totally freaks out, screaming crying the whole 9 yards. We then switch the boyfriend goes in, calms her down says that "mommy will check in with u once ur done crying" which I do thinking she's alseep now. But no she's not I kiss her good night one last time and then leave again. She finally fell asleep on her own but almost 2 hours after her bedtime.
Any advice on how to ease this transition of falling alseep on their own without it being such a battle??
on Oct. 10, 2013 at 12:00 AM