My FIL and BIL do not agree with my husband's and my parenting skills. He thinks we are too relaxed with them. Mostly because we do not spank our 1.5 year old and our 3 year old doesn't do exactly what we ask her to do the first time we ask her to do it 100% of the time.
So today when we were bringing in the New Year we were giving our hopes and prayer requests for 2014. It gets to be his turn and he has 5 things. On the last thing he says,
"And finally, I'd like to pray for <my husband's name> and <my name> and their parenting skills. May we all be able to speak into their lives and help them train up their children in a Godly fashion."
Okay, okay, before you start with the "that's not a bad request." We are one of five of my FIL's children who have children. It's not that he is praying for ALL his grandchildren to be raised by ALL of his children in a good way. He just wants to make sure WE START doing so. Of his children he only has two of eight that attend a weekly church meeting (or a church meeting yearly). So we are the only ones that routinely bring The Lord to our children (just in case you were curious why "Godly fashion" wasn't specifically to counter any ritualistic goat slaughtering or whatever). This prayer request is on top of numerous "pointers" he's given us and countless "direction" he's given to my husband and myself.
My husband doesn't agree with how his father wants us to discipline our children. He has asked me not to "disrespect him" by doing what I'd normally do, which is directly confront him and put him in his place. My husband is not confrontational and so has not directly headed this off. At this point I've asked my husband to direct his father and his brother (only one of them "help direct our parenting") to give all their "helpful hints" to him and to never speak to me about my children and our parenting skills again.
I'm ready to blow my top.