I have twins b/g. My boy is very easy: out-going, loving caring, charming. All the things you wish for in your 4 year old.
My girl makes me so stressed out and most of the time I feel like I am the worst parent ever.
Problem #1 Jealousy: They go to a nice pre-school where all the rich kids go. We are fine financially but I choose to live a life as simple as possible. I am happy in my middle class neighborhood, I buy things I need not things I want. We get invited to play at her classmates's houses quite often. The moment we arrive at one of those nice mansions my daughter started looking at the million toys she doesn't need and got so sad and jealous. Yesterday she threw the biggest tantrum because she wanted to ride her friend's bike with the fancy horn because hers doesn't have horn.
Then she complains to me that no kids at school wants to play with her. The next day she complains because Erica follows her everywhere and copies her.
When I asked why no one wants to play with her, she answered 'I don't want anyone to touch my toys'
It is so tiring and sometimes embarrassing that I don't want to get her out to play with other kids. She plays with her twin brother very well but as soon as some kids join in she got furiously jealous. She becomes so unhappy and starts sulking in the corner.
I have been explaining to her that we don't buy eveything she sees at her friends. I have been very gentle with her but it hasn't working yet. I am wondering if you all have suggestions and ideas.