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my son will be 3 1/2 on April 9th and we have been having an issue with him bitting off and on for the last year and a half (since his sister was born). My question is how can I get him to stop? He has bit a two different kids at story time and tried to bite the teacher in story time on seperate occasions so today since he bit a kid they told me he can not be there if he is going to bite. He loves story time though so I am at a loss as to what to do. 

by on Mar. 26, 2014 at 12:56 PM
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maxswolfsuit
by Max on Mar. 28, 2014 at 6:46 PM

If you feel that way about his doctor why in the world is she still his doctor?

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

his doctor is a stupid snobby foriegn woman that thinks she is sooo smart but gives me no advice or guidance. 

Quoting HaroldsMom:

Okay I just don't know then just keep telling him that thing will be okay I wish I could help more. Maybe you can talk to the Dr. about it. Don't know all you can do is just love him poor you and him


maxswolfsuit
by Max on Mar. 28, 2014 at 6:49 PM

After reading through the whole thread I totally agree with you. There seems to be a lot going on here. 

Quoting TheartAH:

 I was refering back to your statements about not taking him to a better doctor because of your driving anxiety and inabilty to teach coping skills because you lack them yourself, To me that shows that your current conditon is effecting your children in a negative way.

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

it is not impacting their welfare. When they need to see the doctor they go to the clinic at hubbys work or go to the pediatritian. Medication and therapy does not work for it I have tried them for years.  How is MY ISSUES impacting my children IN YOUR OPINION?

Quoting TheartAH: Also, I seriously hope that you consider at least therapy and maybe medication for this anxiety that is impacting the welfare of your child(ren).

 


maxswolfsuit
by Max on Mar. 28, 2014 at 6:51 PM

That's an excuse. 

My son is the same age and is having the same issue. If he was biting kids at story hour I wouldn't even try to bring him. We handled his biting by changing what we were doing at home and helping him deal with his frustrations in appropriate ways. 

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

he knows why he can't go back. I AM NOT MAKING DAMN EXCUSES. He speaks better then a lot of kids his age even with him being such a preemie. When he doesn't feel well he has issues with behaving. 

Quoting TheartAH: This is not normal. I'm confused: You said it's been a year and a half but then talked about him possibly being ill. Does he speak well? Understand consequences? It sounds like you are making a lot of excuses and making him the victim. I do not blame the teacher for not allowing him back for awhile. Does HE know why he can't go to story time anymore?


TheMommaJessie
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2014 at 8:19 PM

better doctor meaning one that isn't a foriegn bitch that is stuck up and thinks she is GOD. EVERYONE in her practice is like that. I do not have the gas to drive an hour away and a hour back everytime one of them needs a check up or shots or just to see if something is wrong. I have a free clinic up at hubbys work that is offered to those that work there and go to school there so i use it over the doc unless dd needs her shots then i have to use the doc but then it is free. i dont need damn coping skills i just keep my self away from ass holes that are causing damn issues and no need to cope.

Quoting TheartAH:

 I was refering back to your statements about not taking him to a better doctor because of your driving anxiety and inabilty to teach coping skills because you lack them yourself, To me that shows that your current conditon is effecting your children in a negative way.

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

it is not impacting their welfare. When they need to see the doctor they go to the clinic at hubbys work or go to the pediatritian. Medication and therapy does not work for it I have tried them for years.  How is MY ISSUES impacting my children IN YOUR OPINION?

Quoting TheartAH: Also, I seriously hope that you consider at least therapy and maybe medication for this anxiety that is impacting the welfare of your child(ren).

 


TheMommaJessie
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2014 at 8:21 PM

we do not condone or allow rough play in the home, we do not allow him to watch violent cartoons or movies or tv. i have no idea where this behavior has came from.  no amount of decipline works with him. talking, telling him to cool down or stop bitting nothing works he has bit his sister 6 times in the last 2 days and i have no idea why.

Quoting maxswolfsuit:

I've been having the same issue with son for about a month. 

He bit a couple of times when he was younger, but nothing for over a year. Then in a two week period he bit 3 kids at school and bit his brother so hard it left a bad mark. 

We've been keeping the kids calmer at home not allowing rowdy play and that seems to be helping. We've also been stricter about his temper in general. When he gets made he has to sit and cool off before he does anything else. He hasn't bitten anyone in a while. I hope it's over!


TheMommaJessie
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2014 at 8:24 PM

there are no other options. The next closest pedi is a hour one way and that is in good weather and good traffic. i cant take them to a family doc or general doc because there are none in the area that do vaccines so i would be stuck taking them to a pedi or to the health department and pay out the ass for the shots because health department doesn't accept my insurance

Quoting maxswolfsuit:

If you feel that way about his doctor why in the world is she still his doctor?

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

his doctor is a stupid snobby foriegn woman that thinks she is sooo smart but gives me no advice or guidance. 

Quoting HaroldsMom:

Okay I just don't know then just keep telling him that thing will be okay I wish I could help more. Maybe you can talk to the Dr. about it. Don't know all you can do is just love him poor you and him


TheMommaJessie
by Bronze Member on Mar. 28, 2014 at 8:28 PM

that is the thing there isn't a damn thing going on at home this started LONG before he went to story time and had stopped when his sister was 6 months old!!!! it only started back up when i TRIED TO BETTER HIM BY TAKING HIM TO STORY TIME TO INTERACT WITH OTHER CHILDREN. apparently it was a bad idea as was this post. never should have came on this damn site for advice I NEVER get help or helpful information or insight just a bunch of damn holier then thou women talking down to me on their damn high horses. what a waste

Quoting maxswolfsuit:

That's an excuse. 

My son is the same age and is having the same issue. If he was biting kids at story hour I wouldn't even try to bring him. We handled his biting by changing what we were doing at home and helping him deal with his frustrations in appropriate ways. 

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

he knows why he can't go back. I AM NOT MAKING DAMN EXCUSES. He speaks better then a lot of kids his age even with him being such a preemie. When he doesn't feel well he has issues with behaving. 

Quoting TheartAH: This is not normal. I'm confused: You said it's been a year and a half but then talked about him possibly being ill. Does he speak well? Understand consequences? It sounds like you are making a lot of excuses and making him the victim. I do not blame the teacher for not allowing him back for awhile. Does HE know why he can't go to story time anymore?


TheartAH
by Member on Mar. 28, 2014 at 11:39 PM
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Wow. I would say you definitely need to work on coping with conflict if talking to anonymous women on the internet gets you so worked up. Say what you will but the people who replied to your post actually want to to help you and your son and took time out of their day to do so. Maybe if you stopped and really thought about what some of us said you would see your situation from another point of view (which is what you asked for). I might even go as far to say the same thing for your doctor. Good luck to you and your family.

Quoting TheMommaJessie:

better doctor meaning one that isn't a foriegn bitch that is stuck up and thinks she is GOD. EVERYONE in her practice is like that. I do not have the gas to drive an hour away and a hour back everytime one of them needs a check up or shots or just to see if something is wrong. I have a free clinic up at hubbys work that is offered to those that work there and go to school there so i use it over the doc unless dd needs her shots then i have to use the doc but then it is free. i dont need damn coping skills i just keep my self away from ass holes that are causing damn issues and no need to cope.

Quoting TheartAH:

 I was refering back to your statements about not taking him to a better doctor because of your driving anxiety and inabilty to teach coping skills because you lack them yourself, To me that shows that your current conditon is effecting your children in a negative way.


Quoting TheMommaJessie:

it is not impacting their welfare. When they need to see the doctor they go to the clinic at hubbys work or go to the pediatritian. Medication and therapy does not work for it I have tried them for years.  How is MY ISSUES impacting my children IN YOUR OPINION?


Quoting TheartAH: Also, I seriously hope that you consider at least therapy and maybe medication for this anxiety that is impacting the welfare of your child(ren).


 

mariesmama
by on Mar. 29, 2014 at 5:29 AM

i'm no help my 4 yr old is biting the kids that bully her at public pre-k shes suspended again for it today. she's coming home all banged up and then suspended for biting the kids that hurt her

TheartAH
by Member on Mar. 29, 2014 at 9:04 AM
Why leave her at a place she's being bullied?

Quoting mariesmama:

i'm no help my 4 yr old is biting the kids that bully her at public pre-k shes suspended again for it today. she's coming home all banged up and then suspended for biting the kids that hurt her

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