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Well, I feel like a crappy mom right now.

Posted by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 9:15 PM
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DS started throwing these awful temper tantrums about 2 weeks ago. They wouldn't be so bad if he didn't insist on slamming himself into walls and hard wood floors as hard as he can. I even move him to sift places and he will move himself back where he can hurt himself. I've tried to stop him but any attention I give him only seems to make it worse since he is doing it for attention. Ugh, I think I am going to talk to the behavioral specialist because I am extremely worried he is going to give himself brain damage since slamming his head into things is his favorite. I am pretty sure he started doing it because I used to simply ignore his temper tantrums which had stopped them for awhile but he knows I am afraid of him getting hurt. I could really use one of those mental hospital isolation rooms right now :/
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susan_marie
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 9:36 PM

My dd used to hold onto the door jam and bang her head on it. She also used to do the same on the floor. I was so worried! Then, I started just walking away for a few minutes she would stop. I would always checks for large bumps and she did get a few but no permanent damage.  It lasted about a month, it was about that time that I was able to get her to tell me why she was so upset. 

lisahappymom
by Bronze Member on Mar. 30, 2014 at 9:42 PM
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Is he in some kind of pain???  Yes, I agree that tantrums that severe warrant a visit to some kind of doctor.

If you need a break just go in the bathroom and splash some water on your face while taking some deep breaths. 

Remember, being a mom is the hardest job ever, and your little one is lucky to have you!!! 


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Kaya529
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 10:53 PM
Why was she upset?

DS is 2 and I think he just is frustrated when we say no. That seems to be the trigger. He's stubborn and has tunnel vision. He is also determined. There really is no distracting him when he get's an idea into his head.


Quoting susan_marie:

My dd used to hold onto the door jam and bang her head on it. She also used to do the same on the floor. I was so worried! Then, I started just walking away for a few minutes she would stop. I would always checks for large bumps and she did get a few but no permanent damage.  It lasted about a month, it was about that time that I was able to get her to tell me why she was so upset. 

Kaya529
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 10:57 PM
I haven't been getting frustrated. I'm just worried he's going to give him self brain damage. I can't stand watching him hurt himself like that :(

Tonight's whole thing started because he wanted to go downstairs after bath but it was bedtime so he screamed and tried throwing himself around. I got him dressed, turned off the light, told him goodnight and went downstairs. He yelled for about 15 min. after that. When he finished I brought him some water, tucked him in, and he went to sleep.


Quoting lisahappymom:

Is he in some kind of pain???  Yes, I agree that tantrums that severe warrant a visit to some kind of doctor.

If you need a break just go in the bathroom and splash some water on your face while taking some deep breaths. 

Remember, being a mom is the hardest job ever, and your little one is lucky to have you!!! 

Cmgmqmmom
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 11:00 PM
Sometimes at that age, kids get frustrated because they can't clearly vocalize what they want.
My youngest son did the head banging thing. I ignored it, it stopped.
I'd still talk to your doctor to be sure.
susan_marie
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 11:01 PM


Quoting Kaya529: Why was she upset? DS is 2 and I think he just is frustrated when we say no. That seems to be the trigger. He's stubborn and has tunnel vision. He is also determined. There really is no distracting him when he get's an idea into his head.
Quoting susan_marie:

My dd used to hold onto the door jam and bang her head on it. She also used to do the same on the floor. I was so worried! Then, I started just walking away for a few minutes she would stop. I would always checks for large bumps and she did get a few but no permanent damage.  It lasted about a month, it was about that time that I was able to get her to tell me why she was so upset. 

Her trigger was having to wait for my attention. Or hearing the word no... If you feel like a trip to the drs would bring you comport, then by all means go. I just wanted to let you know that in my case, it didnt last forever. Soon he will figure out it doesn't feel so good to bang his head. 

Kaya529
by on Mar. 30, 2014 at 11:10 PM
No, my neighbor babysits for a behavioral therapist. She is the one who noticed DS had Torticolis. If I am having any issues I just speak with her when she picks up her kids who are about the same age as DS.

Quoting susan_marie:

Quoting Kaya529: Why was she upset?

DS is 2 and I think he just is frustrated when we say no. That seems to be the trigger. He's stubborn and has tunnel vision. He is also determined. There really is no distracting him when he get's an idea into his head.


Quoting susan_marie:

My dd used to hold onto the door jam and bang her head on it. She also used to do the same on the floor. I was so worried! Then, I started just walking away for a few minutes she would stop. I would always checks for large bumps and she did get a few but no permanent damage.  It lasted about a month, it was about that time that I was able to get her to tell me why she was so upset. 

Her trigger was having to wait for my attention. Or hearing the word no... If you feel like a trip to the drs would bring you comport, then by all means go. I just wanted to let you know that in my case, it didnt last forever. Soon he will figure out it doesn't feel so good to bang his head. 

emtgirl885
by on Apr. 1, 2014 at 4:23 AM
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