I am brainstorming new discipline techniques for my high needs 4 year old for his severe tantrums when he does not get his way. Although I appreciate all feedback, he is not a typical child who has responded to time puts or reward charts or systems. I would love to hear from other mothers who have older strong-willed children about how they dealt with them at age 4.
background: he is 4 1/2 years old 2nd born who was in behavioral therapy with me at age 3 (we stopped at age 4). He essentially has an explosive type personality, completely loses self-control when he does not get what he wants. He hits, spits, says horrible, hateful things. Currently we continue to practice self-control exercises when calm, discuss proper behavior when calm, and when the tantrum starts he gets taken immediately to a room, loses whatever he wanted for an extended period of time and often other privileges. Tonight I had to restrain him in order to get him to lay down. But alas the horrific behavior continues. I always feel like I fail him, thankfully his older brother is a typical child and responds to discipline in a normal manner, so I am familiar with traditional techniques
And becauses I know it will be recommended by a few, I'll address spanking--if you think it is helpful for a strong willed child, then you 've never met mine!