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To housewarming party or not to housewarming party... OT

Posted by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 3:11 AM
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A brief back story:

We just moved back into a house we bought almost 6 years ago. A year after we bought it my husband's job transferred him and we moved around for them for 4 1/2 years. We decided it was timeto come back and asked our tenants to leave.

They left us an enormous mess. We just the upstairs of the house liveable after 3 weeks of work and we hhaven't even touched the mess they left in the yard (seriously, there's a lot of junk out there)

All together we have spent about $2000 and all our savings trying to get our place put back together. We have also had to leave most of our stuff in the moves. We have most of the essentials, but need lots more stuff to make our house a home again. Honestly, though, I kind of just want my house to feel more like its mine, and having family and friends get together seems like a good way to do that. Gifts would be very much appreciated but not required.

We have never had a housewarming party before. Under these circumstances, would it be okay to throw a housewarming party? .
by on Apr. 14, 2014 at 3:11 AM
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sophiesmom07
by Ruby Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 12:07 PM

I have never had a house warming party or gone to one.  I would probably throw a BBQ and invite people over, but not mention or expect them to bring me anything.  

RobynS
by Robyn on Apr. 14, 2014 at 12:12 PM

Sure, why not. Like you said, it's family and friends that make it feel like home, not "stuff." If someone brings you something for your home that you can really use, GREAT! If not, it's still all good.

I would recommend keeping very simple... maybe making it "potluck" so you don't spend a ton of money on entertaining. :)

flowerfunleah
by Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 12:23 PM

Are you going to bill your previous tenants for the mess and money you spent cleaning it up?

AtiFreeFalls
by Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 12:30 PM
I would, but they won't pay, and I have reason to believe they may retaliate by destroying other property. Break windows, key cars, slash tires. I am in no way certain of this, but they're already mad at me because I forced them to let me do a walkthrough when they were moving out before they were supposed to without paying rent. They got weird, I got nervous and brought a police escort. They got mad. Cussed out the cop and punched a hole in the wall. Wouldn't talk to me... I don't want to stir the pot any more.

Quoting flowerfunleah:

Are you going to bill your previous tenants for the mess and money you spent cleaning it up?

flowerfunleah
by Member on Apr. 14, 2014 at 1:31 PM

I personally think people react that way (anger, violent outburst's, etc) simply to intimidate those into submission i.e. so that you wont come after them for money. And let's face it, chances are that if they do that to YOUR property they're going to do it to someone elses' property anyway because they think they can get away with it simply because you (their previous landlord) did nothing about it previously. 

If I were you I would take those previous tenants to small claims court for the damages they made and to make them pay for the money you spent cleanign up after them. 

Quoting AtiFreeFalls: I would, but they won't pay, and I have reason to believe they may retaliate by destroying other property. Break windows, key cars, slash tires. I am in no way certain of this, but they're already mad at me because I forced them to let me do a walkthrough when they were moving out before they were supposed to without paying rent. They got weird, I got nervous and brought a police escort. They got mad. Cussed out the cop and punched a hole in the wall. Wouldn't talk to me... I don't want to stir the pot any more.
Quoting flowerfunleah:

Are you going to bill your previous tenants for the mess and money you spent cleaning it up?


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