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3 Year old touching herself - advice?

Posted by on Sep. 25, 2015 at 3:31 PM
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While watching movie trailers on my laptop, my daughter who is watching some tv before going to bed sits in front of me on the floor, and when I look down to see whether she is still there, I notice her hand down her pajama pants, and she is touching herself. I know since potty training and me talking to her about her private area, and how no one else besides mommy can wash there, not even the nanny, she has become a bit more curious about that specific area. I have never seen her do this before, and I am more than a little bit freaked out right now. She has no history of any kind of abuse - I know some moms would want to know that. She is a very curious child. She does not watch anything on tv where sex and kissing between adults are concerned. I immediately google it because obviously being a first time mom this is completely unexplored territory, and after reading some articles stating that its "normal" - I thought the best way to feel better is to get real mom advice. Maybe someone has experienced this before with their toddler? 

Any comments or advice is more than welcome. 

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Uhura
by Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 3:32 PM
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She's touching herself because it feels good, more than likely.

There's nothing wrong with it.


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ChandreyEJ
by New Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 3:38 PM


Quoting Uhura:

She's touching herself because it feels good, more than likely.

There's nothing wrong with it.

I have no clue how to approach this. Im not even sure whether to make my husband aware of this. I definitely cannot speak to my mother about this she will immediately take it to another level. 

wife-4-life
by on Sep. 25, 2015 at 4:14 PM
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A lot of adults don't understand, because to us it's sexual. Toddler are not aware of "sexual" things. To her it feels good and can give a feeling a relaxing.
Now whether you allow her to do it or not is up to you as the mom. 2 out of my 3 girls did it, but if I saw them doing it I explained we don't do that when people are around. I don't want her to feel like the feeling is bad and to grow up being ashamed of her body or feelings but I also don't want her doing it when people are around. My 5 yo has outgrown it but my 4year still does it at nap and bedtime. To be honest, I think it helps her wind down to sleep. I don't know. Lol. My 2-1/2yo hasn't started exploring at all.
Raeann11
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 5:21 PM
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Yes, it is normal. Just tell her that we do that in the private of our room.
Uhura
by Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 9:03 PM

If you make a big deal, it'll be a big deal. Unless she's touching herself in public, there's no reason to even address it.

Quoting ChandreyEJ:


Quoting Uhura:

She's touching herself because it feels good, more than likely.

There's nothing wrong with it.

I have no clue how to approach this. Im not even sure whether to make my husband aware of this. I definitely cannot speak to my mother about this she will immediately take it to another level. 



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TwinkleStars918
by Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 9:07 PM
I've also told my son it's not acceptable in common areas, but he may do it in his room. It's normal and not a big deal. It lasted a few months after he was potty trained.

A toddler is not going to make a connection between discovering a body part that was previously covered by her diaper, and adults kissing on TV.
lillucky8
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 9:23 PM
I just tell my kids its something they are allowed to do in their rooms in private and not in front of other people. And remind them of that if i see them doing it with someone around.
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kbntaej
by New Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 9:27 PM
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It's normal, mama. I freaked out when my girls hit that stage, to the point of getting myself sick over it. Good luck!
AmiJanell
by Bronze Member on Sep. 25, 2015 at 10:22 PM

Both of my kids have done this... boy and girl... and it seems more interesting to them around this age. My daughter is 3 and she is constantly touching... I just make her wash her hands.  

crystalplus1
by Bronze Member on Sep. 26, 2015 at 12:27 AM

Its normal. I would let her know its somthing she should do in her own room, not out so everyone sees what she is up to.

I have a 4 year old ds. He penis is his best friend. I dont even stay in the bathroom when hes taking a bath anymore. 

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