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Jealousy and Envy

Posted by on Nov. 1, 2016 at 1:20 PM
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Jealousy and Envy I think it would be safe to say we have all been here one time or another. What do you do when your jealousy takes over you, and drives you to do deceitful things? Maybe you’re the type of person that can’t stand to see someone get on their feet, because you think they may out shine you. Maybe you’re the type that takes cheap shots at a person’s faults, not remembering we all have some things we need to work on. Maybe you’re the type that watches everything that a person does, and says waiting for your moment to take their ideas or their style, and use it as your own. Maybe you’re the type that can see a person doing well, but you just can’t bring yourself to be happy for them. Let’s look at it from the other side. What do you do when you’re on the receiving end to someone else’s envy of you? How many times do you should talk to this person about their behavior, for them to act like they have no idea what you’re talking about? What if it’s someone that is supposed to be close to you, like a sibling? What do you do? Well let’s start by looking at it from both sides yours, and theirs. While this is not professional advice, more of my opinion based of my own life experiences. This is in no way a substitute for professional help. If you feel that these behaviors are you, and are taken a big role in your life, you may need to seek professional help. Check list: Why do I feel this way towards this person? Was this part of my upbringing? Am I truly loving myself? Am I happy with the person I am becoming? Why do I allow this person to stay in my life? Is having this relationship bringing me joy? Is this person an energy drainer? Do I confront them again, or just let them go? Getting a pad, writing down the answers to questions on this check list should help give you some clarity, as to why we allow these behaviors to take place in our lives. I think as parents we sometimes don’t realize, how our behaviors effect our children’s behaviors. Our children watch everything we say and do, it’s a part of the learning process. Even as adults we may get angry and yell at our little ones and out came the words your parents. That’s when you stop and say oh my I sound just like my mother or father. We have all done it. When children head off to school they are placed with many other children with different values and some are not always good ones. Your child must deal with envy and jealously issues, no matter if its them causing it or on receiving end. It’s all a part of being in society, helping them to deal with these issues can make the difference for success. Your child will take the lessons you have taught them whether you sat down and gave them a lesson or the lessons they have learned just by watching you deal with different situations that has occurred in your own life. When faced with jealously and envy how do you think your child will respond to it? Think about how you have responded to it, when its shown it ugly face in your life? Did you handle it well? Here is something that has helped me deal with jealousy and envy that has shown its ugliness in my life. First I went over my check list, then I remembered that I am special, no one can be me. I am one of a kind, the creator designed me for a special purpose on this earth and no one else can do it, but me. Even if someone takes an idea of mine, and uses it as their own without given me credit its ok. That type of stuff doesn’t anger me, because it is a validation that I am doing great and on the right path. No one wants to be like you if they didn’t think you are amazing. Really, people do not get jealous over something that isn’t worth anything. That’s is the lesson we must teach our little ones, that they are special and that we should be happy for others and help when we can. We all will have our time to do amazing things in our lives, and unfortunately not everyone will be happy for us. When someone is jealous of you, and does something not of good character it’s, because they are not happy with themselves. Maybe they feel like a failure in their life, lots of time they see the beauty in you and just wish they could have it for themselves. Instead of getting angry or feeling hurt, by their actions it’s best to not feed into that behavior. Keep your distance, and continue being you, with the people that are happy for you, and contribute to your own success and happiness. Don’t allow anyone’s ill thought and actions determine how you will act, continue to shine and focus on being the best you.

by on Nov. 1, 2016 at 1:20 PM
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by on Nov. 4, 2016 at 11:51 AM

Thanks for sharing :)

by Bronze Member on Nov. 5, 2016 at 1:50 PM
Ty, no jealousy here, I think dealing with emotions gets better as we age
by Gold Member on Nov. 5, 2016 at 5:44 PM

I try not to let jelousy both me. everyone has different good things and bad things happen in their life. I occasionally feel jelous but i look at all the wonderful things in my life. I try not to pay attention to others jelousy

by Member on Nov. 5, 2016 at 7:53 PM

I get better with age but I think my children are pretty jealousy-free. They have their moments, like everyone does-but not many. They know how lucky they are... how blessed they are.

by Bronze Member on Nov. 6, 2016 at 11:10 PM
I get jealous of others all the time
by Bronze Member on Nov. 7, 2016 at 10:48 AM
I think a lot of times jealousy stems from insecurities about one self. If I feel jealous about something or someone, I remember what I do have to be grateful for. And remind myself that my shortcomings are only my problem. Only I can fix whatever I don't like about myself.
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