I'm a 36 year old mother of a 7 year old boy & a 9 year old girl. I'm not only new to CafeMom as of March, 2013, I came to the site as a recent convert to spanking. After 2 years of raising my kids on my own following a divorce, I found that grounding and removal of privileges, while effective in some cases, just was not working as I'd hoped. I was reluctant to spank, partly because of the social stigma associated with it, but in conversations with other moms I was finally convinced to try it. I told my children that there was a new sheriff in town, so to speak, and that major acts of misbehavior would result in unpleasant consequences. They both now know what I meant. Their behavior has improved and the willful disobedience that caused me so much grief has been greatly reduced. Spanking is a chore I dislike, but it has made a difference in our house.