I am a single mother of a beautiful 5 yr old girl and I also have a beautiful baby girl born 8/31/08.  My bd left about a month ago without saying a word, even turns his phone off so "none of those irritating phone calls etc... from me more than likely....can get thru. You should also know he has done this twice before (The first time was also for a month, he grabbed take-out for us, put it on the table, walked out, and I didnt hear from him for a month.) I was freaking out, called hospitals, jails....I had no idea what happened to him. The second time was for a week (guess things just weren't working out that time). Point is i took him back both times, the last time he said he wouldnt hurt me like that again, and here i sit today like a fool, 4 weeks after being left again. I took him back before because I thought it was the right thing to do... to try to work things out for all of our sakes, especially our unborn baby girl. Now I am all alone, having the baby in the next couple of months. I am making plans to move to California my exhusband, father to my 5yr old, and his new wife, moved out there a few months ago for his job, and visitation back and forth with our daughter has been too hard. (And I am pretty sure I could use a new start anyway :) ) MY QUESTION IS: WHEN IS ENOUGH ENOUGH? I WAS GOING TO OBLITERATE BD FROM MY MIND, MOVE TO CALI, TURN MYYYYYY PHONE OFF, AND NEVER SEE OR SPEAK TO HIM AGAIN!!!!! BUT IS THIS THE RIGHT THING TO DO!!????!!!! My thoughts are that he obviously has no care or respect for me....and certainly isnt showing any real concern for his unborn daughter. I don't want my child's father to be in and out of her life at his convenience, i don't think its right. Bd and i have been together for about a year and a half, and maybe it's just coincidence, but he wasnt doing this until I got pregnant. ANY ADVICE OR COMMENTS ARE APPRECIATED...I AM ABOUT TO MAKE SOME MAJOR LIFE CHANGING DECISIONS........