I have been a mostly stay at home mom the entire time with my kids! I think it is the most important job I'll ever do and so I wanted to do it right. My son has graduated college and both of my daughters are in college, one as a freshman and the other trying to get finished soon.  So I feel I have done my job and done it well. No drugs, alcohol or bad kids here. Just up and coming success stories. I don't agree with day care unless you are a single parent with no other options. Give up the visa card and raise your children!