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About

  • Location: Behind the DQ in TN
  • Mom to 2, Gramma to 8, Aunt to 3, Buddy to 2, etc
  • Interests: beauty & style, charity & volunteering, crafts & scrapbooking, coupons & saving money, family... more
  • Last Login: 07/14/14
  • CafeMom Member

Kids

  • Christeen Michelle Thornbury-Bus
    Christee... 34 years old

    B.S. Sociology, TTU

  • Boy
    William... 38 years old

    Stillborn With 2 grandpas...

  • Elisaba Jean Fowler
    Elisaba... 39 years old

    B.S. Nursing, ASU

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  • Personal Statement

    It's nice to be a member here!  Altho my mothering days are long behind me. I am estranged from my birth daughter, Elisaba, due to my choice to stay with my stepdaughter.

    And I am known as Gramma S or Gramma Sharyn to my own 3 granddaughters, 3 step-step granddaughters (2 daughters and one step daughter of my step daughter), one half sister of one of the step steps, one half sister of my step's step, and a couple of the step step's friends. I also have 2 "buddies". They are the sons of my step son in law's brother. HOWEVER, we NEVER use words like "step", "half" or "foster"!! I have used them here to give you a better idea of my family.

    Also, I am the "crazy" aunt. Auntie Sharyn to Amy, Matthew and David (all adult) but most importantly Aunt to Addie-Boo, Mikey, and Rylee (4, 2 and in vitro, respectively). These all are thru my Dude.

    Now for the juicy part. My relationship. My Dude is my step daughter's step dad. I am widowed from her birth father (actually more of a sperm donor). My Dude is divorced (since '01) from her birth mom (a meth addict to whom he was married for 6 years). I was married to her father for 26 years (I have been in her life since she was 6 months old). My Dude came into her life when she was 8. I didn't know him, we were in different states--CA and TN. Amazingly my Dude stayed in our daughter's life even when her mother was "out" for weeks on end. And he stayed long after the mom left the state. And as the step dad, it is even more amazing that he is closest to our step daughter's step daughter. I say amazing because when I divorced my second husband who had been in my birth daughter's life for 7 years, from 3 to 10, and when he left, he promised to see my daughter and that lasted the first weekend, where upon he never called or saw her again. (And they had been close, she used his last name for a few years) So yes, my Dude is amazing to me.

    My challenge right now: Maintaining constant love between my (step) daughter and myself. My role has changed. I have gone from being Mom (or Step Mommy when she introduces me in depth) to My Dad's Girlfriend. (If she's REALLY mad, I'm afraid in her head she's calling me "Daddy's Little Whore") There's a lot of emphasis on our sex life. (Just because you're "putting out"....) She doesn't seem to get that we truly love each other. However, I AM her Mom!! I earned that right thru her father, not cuz I'm dating her dad (I am very specific on who is her father and who is her dad). Those ARE MY granddaughters!! AND my love is constant even tho my role has changed, I/ME has not changed. Also, we may not be her "real" parents, we are the on site, always present, there in a pinch parents.

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  • In this new incarnation, I am loving (therefore lovable), honest, and trusting. I am basic, simple,

    It's nice to be a member here!  Altho my mothering days are long behind me. I am estranged from my birth daughter, Elisaba, due to my choice to stay with my stepdaughter.

    And I am known as Gramma S or Gramma Sharyn to my own 3 granddaughters, 3 step-step granddaughters (2 daughters and one step daughter of my step daughter), one half sister of one of the step steps, one half sister of my step's step, and a couple of the step step's friends. I also have 2 "buddies". They are the sons of my step son in law's brother. HOWEVER, we NEVER use words like "step", "half" or "foster"!! I have used them here to give you a better idea of my family.

    Also, I am the "crazy" aunt. Auntie Sharyn to Amy, Matthew and David (all adult) but most importantly Aunt to Addie-Boo, Mikey, and Rylee (4, 2 and in vitro, respectively). These all are thru my Dude.

    Now for the juicy part. My relationship. My Dude is my step daughter's step dad. I am widowed from her birth father (actually more of a sperm donor). My Dude is divorced (since '01) from her birth mom (a meth addict to whom he was married for 6 years). I was married to her father for 26 years (I have been in her life since she was 6 months old). My Dude came into her life when she was 8. I didn't know him, we were in different states--CA and TN. Amazingly my Dude stayed in our daughter's life even when her mother was "out" for weeks on end. And he stayed long after the mom left the state. And as the step dad, it is even more amazing that he is closest to our step daughter's step daughter. I say amazing because when I divorced my second husband who had been in my birth daughter's life for 7 years, from 3 to 10, and when he left, he promised to see my daughter and that lasted the first weekend, where upon he never called or saw her again. (And they had been close, she used his last name for a few years) So yes, my Dude is amazing to me.

    My challenge right now: Maintaining constant love between my (step) daughter and myself. My role has changed. I have gone from being Mom (or Step Mommy when she introduces me in depth) to My Dad's Girlfriend. (If she's REALLY mad, I'm afraid in her head she's calling me "Daddy's Little Whore") There's a lot of emphasis on our sex life. (Just because you're "putting out"....) She doesn't seem to get that we truly love each other. However, I AM her Mom!! I earned that right thru her father, not cuz I'm dating her dad (I am very specific on who is her father and who is her dad). Those ARE MY granddaughters!! AND my love is constant even tho my role has changed, I/ME has not changed. Also, we may not be her "real" parents, we are the on site, always present, there in a pinch parents.