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- Location: Redding, CA
- Current Mood: Overwhelmed
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Feb. 21, 2008 at 3:25 PM
detaching peacefully from those you no longer have to please anymore
Be the first to comment Join our new divorce recovery network for Christian Women Did you know you are powerless of other people's expectations of you? We cannot control what others want, what they expect from us, or what they want us to be or do. We can however, control how we respond to other people's expectations.Why is that so hard to understand? WE spend so much wasted time, worrying over what other people, (our ex, our ex in-laws, our neighbors, our friends and church friends) think of us. During any course of any given day, people will make demands on our time, talents, energy, money and...
Feb. 14, 2008 at 12:58 PM
Romance Scams
Be the first to commentDear Ladies,I know its Valentines Day and you feel lonely and unloved.On the Internet there is a growing problem of romance scams. Divorced Christian women are vulnerable. It is happening all too often and I felt as the Mom to my divorced Christian women, I would try and get the message out there and what better day to do this, but Valentines Day.I have just started to research all of this. So the following, is a entry on another blog made Jan 3. 2008. Please if any of you are involved in something like this, DON'T KEEP IT TO YOURSELF. Google: romance scams. There are message boards and...
Jan. 17, 2008 at 8:59 PM
The Holy Grail of Recovery is not in dating or a remarriage
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The Holy Grail of Recovery is not in dating or a remarriage
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Picket Fences does not recommend dating and re-marriage as the means to "recover". Absolutely NOT. And if you want to see me get my feathers in a ruffle is when are ladies who are plotting and planning to get a man with no work on themselves and no recovery. It takes 1 year for every 5 years married to recover. One needs to reacquaint with themselves and find out who they are after their marriage and divorce. Divorce changes you!When there are minor children involved I get real touchyI admit, I have some trust issues when it comes to bringing some strange man into the...
Jan. 10, 2008 at 2:42 PM
You Get To Decide
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You Get To Decide
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You Get to Decide I look at Step 1 as the pivotal step toward healing. God graciously gives each of us free will and while we would agree that the proceedings of a divorce becomes chaotic at times, we do have choices! Will you decide to continue to be a victim of divorce or a survivor?A year ago, Picket fences ran the following poll:It seems that most of our members are the ones who have been wronged in their marriages. Being totally truthful and anonymous, what percentage did you play in the breakup of your marriage?I...
Jan. 9, 2008 at 2:11 PM
We admitted...
Be the first to commentWe admitted...we are powerless over the circumstances of our divorce. Our lives have become unmanageable due to the consequences of divorce and our separation from God. ( Step 1)I believe admission, is the first step toward spiritual wholeness after a devastating divorce. Like an alcoholic, who admits to his/her drinking problem, admitting we need divine help, is all it takes to break down the barriers. It doesn't matter how great your attorney is. It doesn't matter who was right and who was wrong. It matters, to God, that you admit that your life right now is unmanageable. Your...
Jan. 3, 2008 at 7:29 PM
Taking back your life
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Taking back your life
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Before we can understand divorce recovery, we need to define "recovery". Wikipedia says:Recovery can refer to the process of healing from an injury, an illness, the process of recovering data, Recovering a spacecraft from a routine, minor, serious, or catastrophic anomaly. Repossession.I bet you never thought about it in that way! I especially like the definition of "recovering data" or recovering a spacecraft. Recovering the old you, the woman God knows you are is a good reason to get into a divorce recovery program du
Dec. 31, 2007 at 5:38 PM
Stepping Stones
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Stepping Stones
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Its only natural to be stressed when faced with the overwhelming crisis of divorce. WE KNOW that if we had any control over the writing of our "life story" we would not have included these events. There is life after divorce. After everything is all said and done, one day, you will be able to see the positive growth that came from the experience. Perhaps right now, you can't see or you don't want to see that...That's okay. You will, one day.Romans 8:28 "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God and to those who are...
Dec. 17, 2007 at 4:23 PM
Don't lunge at the Gerbil
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Don't lunge at the Gerbil
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Monday, December 17, 2007 Don't lunge at the Gerbil One day, my son brought home a gerbil to live with us. We put it in a cage. Some time later, the gerbil escaped. For the next six months, the animal ran frightened and wild through the house. So did we - chasing it."There it is. Get it!" we'd scream, each time someone spotted the gerbil. I, or my son, would throw down whatever we were working on, race across the house, and lunge at the animal hoping to catch it.I...
Dec. 10, 2007 at 1:43 PM
Divorce Recovery~~ Questions to think about...
Be the first to commentYou've met your Boaz, Mr Right. He's talking marriage. You are delighted! He mentions, he is against divorce and if you marry him, there will be no divorce. Having just come through many years of healing your divorce, this sounds refreshing to you...or does it?Statistics show that nearly half of all 2nd marriages end in divorce.Having already one divorce under your belt, do you think it would be too easy at the first indication of a marital problem to justify divorce as a solution?Why do you think statistics are so high for 2nd marriages?What can you learn in your divorce recovery...
Nov. 29, 2007 at 12:25 PM
Strong women ~ Divorce forces ex-wives toward self-confidence
Be the first to comment Strong Women Divorce forces ex-wives toward self-confidence. There must be a better way to get there -by Michael G. Maudlin There are benefits to being married to a psychologist. Sometimes, when I least expect it, my wife comes home from work, puts her arms around me and tells me that I am a wonderful husband. I simply smile and receive this grace. It means Karen has just assessed the damage to a marriage in which the husband is truly awful, and she is feeling grateful that all she has to put up with is me. But then there are the days when I find myself in the role of...
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