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Question: Would you let your 10yr old daughter ride her bike alone to a friends house?

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Here's the deal... I have 4 kids, 10(g), 7(g), 4(b), and 3(g)... My 10 year old is a very mature, responsible, bright child. She is very helpful and gets great grades. The dilema is this... Her best friend lives down the street and around the corner from us. She has been driving me nuts about riding her bike over there alone... Up till now, the answer has been NO.... With the warm weather arriving, and summer around the corner, she is going to be bored to tears.... It's not her I dont trust, its the "crazies". You know who I'm talking about.... I have talked with her extensively about what to do if ever approached, and she has all the right answers. So my question is this,     How old is old enough to ride your bike alone around the corner????????  BTW, we live in a rather small community, mostly side streets with lots of houses........

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Bronc...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 4:53 PM

My six year old rides his bike to a friend's house that is two streets over. We call the mom let her know that he is leaving and then she calls when he gets there and the same occurs when he comes home. Can't keep em locked up forever!

Julie     

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Kellyn
Mar. 28, 2007 at 4:54 PM I said yes for the fact that if you can watch her the first couple times, and she calls when she gets there, I would let her try.  Trust your daughter to do what is right.  Go over the rules (watching for cars, wearing helment etc) and see how she does.  10 is an age where they want to be solo, so let her try.

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ralph...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 4:54 PM hello my son is 9 and i will not let him ride his bike anywhere to school a friends house he wants to ride his bike from school to home as well and when he asks me i get this bad feeling in the pit of my stomach to me hes not old enough plus we have only been in the area since september i hope that helps you out i too am afraid of the child snatchers and the speed demons that race through every town without any disreguards for other children....i dont want any ones child on the news or in the paper that they are missing or not found its too scary to think about ...it makes me wanna cry for those moms who have lost so much!!!

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Rainl...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 5:59 PM

I think 10 is the right age to start venturing out into the neighborhood. You trust her so be willing to show her that. I would call the other mother before her leaving and let her know she is on her way ( plus this a great way to make sure it is ok she can come over to begin with) and have her call you when she gets there. Vise versa on her coming home (it lets the other parent know that you are there and didn't step out for a minute). I would also have her call the other mother when she gets home just so she knows

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CaptWife
Mar. 28, 2007 at 7:47 PM Along with allowing her to ride what I used to do with Matt was he had to call me when he got there and when he was leaving.  Oh I just looked up and Rain said the same thing LOL

Ditto Rain

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Soulf...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 8:16 PM

Here is a great web site someone put up in one of my groups today it shows you any registered sexual offenders in your neighborhood and surrounding areas just type in your address and a map will pop up with the dots click on the dots they show the offender and their conviction and address as check this out and then make an educated decision i understand what your saying now adays you can't help but fear all the time.

 http://www.familywatchdog.us/Search.asp

Hope this helps 

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sym71006
Mar. 28, 2007 at 8:47 PM I don't let my lil girl go by herself. She is 10 as well. My main concern is her safety. I have 1 of my older kids (14n15) Ride around with her. R I will take the baby out for a walk n take my daughter n her friends. But never ever alone.

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short...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 8:54 PM i went through this same dillema when we recently moved! i have a 10 y/o girl (will be 11 tomorrow) and she is very very mature for her age and all of her friends pretty much get to go and do what they want so of course my daughter thinks she should be able to do the same. well i wasnt having it!! i swore up and down that i wasnt gonna let her go anywhere alone even if it is just around the corner. we too live in a very small town and everyone pretty much knows everyone......then my husband gets home and sees no problem with her going! so needless to say i had to face the fact that she is growing up and responsible and i let her go ( cell phone in hand of course!) i think that if the child is mature and responsible enough i say let her go and just make her call when she gets there and when she is leaving to come home, that has worked for us so far. hope this helped just a little!

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Mom2r...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 9:21 PM I will not even let my kids out of the house without an adult.  If you check out the website http://www.familywatchdog.us/ you can find all the sex offenders in your area.  We happen to have 103 within a 2 mile or so radius with 3 of them being on the next street over.  Sorry....not that I don't and won't trust my kids, it's others I worry about.  I do have an 11 year old stepdaughter and Dh nor I will let her even go outside without one of us with her.  :)  JMO

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TinaS...
Mar. 28, 2007 at 9:44 PM It depends on her maturity, how far she is going, and what you personally feel comfy with.  I think it is great to see the posts and you asking, because a lot of parents let their child run wild these days.  My dd and I rehearsed what she should do if someone talked to her, etc. 

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