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Question: Did you wait until marriage and are glad about it?

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Yes

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I waited, but am not glad about it.

I didn't wait but wish I had.

I didn't wait and think it had no impact on my marraige now.


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  1. Sex is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power, sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force. Sex is a gift from God to give us the greatest pleasure, to help in creating a deep companionship with one's spouse and for procreation of the next generation. But if you play with this powerful force outside the bounds of marriage, it destroys you and those close to you.
  2. Sexual activity for young people arrests their psychological, social and academic development. Studies show that when young people engage in premarital sex, their academic performance declines and their social relationships with family and friends deteriorate. This is because adolescents are too immature to deal with the explosive sex drive and it tends to dominate their life.
  3. The majority of women cannot enjoy sex outside of the bonds of marriage. The development of a fulfilling sex life needs the security and peace of the marriage bond. Premarital sex usually takes place sneaking around in hidden places dealing with the fear of being caught, the fear of pregnancy and feelings of guilt. All these (worrisome) factors undermine pleasure in premarital sex, most especially for women.
  4. Virginity is to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed yourself to stay with forever in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you have to give to your spouse. Once you lose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don't lose something so precious in a thoughtless way.
  5. Those who engage in premarital sex run a high risk of contracting one of the many venereal diseases rampant today, as well as losing their fertility. Not just AIDS, but other common disfiguring diseases like herpes have no cure.
  6. Some venereal diseases have no symptoms and many couples discover many years later that they became infertile because of these diseases. Infertility experts estimate that 80% of today's infertility is due to venereal diseases contracted before they married.
  7. The best and only method that guarantees 100% against AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases is to wait for marriage to have sex and maintain fidelity in your marriage.
  8. Premarital sex breaks the 10 Commandments given by God. The 10 Commandments are given to man by God to make man happy. They are not outdated and they are not restrictive. If we follow these laws, we can create happy and prosperous lives. If we don't follow them, we will pay a heavy price in divorce, disease, abortions, illegitimate children and loneliness. Modern men make a big mistake when they think that they can break these eternal laws and not suffer consequences.
  9. Premarital sex runs the risk of conceiving illegitimate children. Numerous scientific studies show that the children of single mothers suffer psychologically and are less successful socially and academically than children from intact families. Above all, children need both their father and their mother. It is wrong to risk having children who will never have their father's love, protection and care.
  10. If you date and you don't have sex, you can forget about that relationship when you stop dating. But if you have sex with those you date and then break up, the nature of sexual involvement creates strong, often unpleasant memories for your whole life. Every relationship you break up where you had intimate relations is like a mini-divorce. The psychological difficulties of these mini-divorces does damage to your character. Later, when you are married and go to bed with your beloved spouse, these unpleasant memories will accompany you.

True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.

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cecil...
Jan. 11, 2010 at 8:22 PM

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Light...
Jan. 11, 2010 at 8:24 PM

I dont know if I can completely agree with this. To an extent I agree that you should wait til marriage. But I have to say that I'm glad that I didnt wait. I believe that if I would have waited I would have spent my marriage wondering what else was out there. I am complety content and happily married now. So really not being able to give my virginity to my husband was not that big of a deal. And he didnt have his to give to me either. But we are very much in love!

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Rutte...
Jan. 11, 2010 at 8:40 PM

I think it is sad that you want to 'see what else is out there'. I am very proud of the fact that my husband and I are the only people we have ever been with and we will ever be with. Neither of us have any desire to 'see what else is out there'.

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Jan. 12, 2010 at 4:12 PM

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Anouck
Jan. 12, 2010 at 4:32 PM

I'm going to disagree with you on pretty much every reason you gave... I certainly didn't wait for marriage (matter of fact, I'm living "in sin" as we speak), and I don't regret anything I've done.

To me, good sex is an essential part of any relationship. And some people just aren't good at it, or you just don't "mesh" for whatever reason. I wouldn't buy a car without driving it first, and I wouldn't marry a man (or be in a committed relationship with him) without test driving HIM first too, so to speak.

Furthermore, even though I've had several sexual partners, I graduated top of my class, never got pregnant, never had an STD, had no issues "getting over" relationships that just ran their course, honestly don't believe that virginity is that big a deal, and since I don't believe in God, I don't think I offended him in any way either.

Diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks.

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Rutte...
Jan. 12, 2010 at 6:51 PM

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Jan. 13, 2010 at 11:06 AM

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A_Mom...
Jan. 13, 2010 at 6:19 PM

I couldn't agree more with Anouck momma!  I myself have had a few partners, and same with my husband of 13 years!  We have and probably will always be married.  I also graduated top of my class, and so did my DH.  We both have very successful lives and live a life in the high middle class range.  We have two beautiful children and neither of us have diseases or were damaged goods because we slept with other people before me married each other.  We also lived together before we were married.  I believe that it's a person's own preference on how they want to deal with sex before marriage and I don't believe that there is one preference that is better than the other!

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Rutte...
Jan. 14, 2010 at 9:21 AM

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Butte...
Jan. 14, 2010 at 2:42 PM

Nicely put RutterMama reading this made me want to print it and save it for my kids even though I agree with all what you have said I just can't stop thinking about how can we input this in people heads and make it stick especially for our teenagers they are going to do what they want to do no matter what we say...All we can do is pray for the best. Thank you for the message your wrote for those who truly care about their lives.

Have a nice day!good

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