Depression....a dark ominous cloud

[VetnAFwife]

Hello All

I am AF wife whose husband(my best friend and soul mate) is deployed.  We have two children and I have suffered from Depression for almost 9 years.   I usually have it under control and when I dont my Husband picks up the pieces that I just cant deal with.  He urges me to get up get out and get moving.  He really does alot to help me....not just baby me.....What do you do when that support is gone and then feelings get worse.  Of course go to the dr.  Yes I did that.  Trying to meet people....Yes trying to do this as well.  It just feels bad with him gone. 

 

Any encouraging words or to read others who go through this same thing would be great to hear from you!

 

[af_mom77]

May. 21, 2008 at 11:23 PM

Have you tried going to the deployed spouses meetings?  Most bases have them.  Some times it helps to talk with some one in the same boat as you.  I know a lot of women finds friends there.  Also take advantage of the "Give Parents a Break" program.  Some times having time for a few hours, when you don't have to constantly watch the kids helps.

[Dott038]

May. 21, 2008 at 11:34 PM

  I don't know what is like to have a hubby that is deployed, But I do now about Depression and anxiety. I have suffered from depression from the time  I was in my early teens to my late 20's. I was on all the meds and went into therapy and even though the therapy helped it never totally was ok. 

My husband always fall asleep with the tv on so one morning I woke up an heard these words"THE ANSWER IS NOT IN PILLS OR DOCTORS! THE ANSWER IS IN YOU"! Even though it was a stupid infomercial and had nothing to do with depression those words stuck in my head the hole day. It was like that was all I could think about. That night I went to bed wondering why I couldn't stop thinking about those words they were just stupid words, I finally Faded off to sleep and for some reason awoke in the middle of the night to another infomercial, the words I heard was "YOU CAN DO IT IF YOU JUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF" Again nothing to do with depression. I thought ok I have flipped my lid, Stick me in a paddy wagon and ship me off to the nut house. But the next morning when I woke up. I noticed that it was easier to get out of bed I actually looked forward to it. I felt a little better.

 I started doing things that I hadn't done in a long time. I started being able to reason with my self and work things out in my head and Therapy was doing me so much more good then before, I Iwas able to talk to the therapist. and find the words to communicate what I felt and started to realize that  the solution was  not in the med or the doc or my Dh. It was somewhere in me. Now don't get me wrong I don't know if I had devine intervention or that my sub conscience showing me what my conscience wasn't hearing. but what I can tell you is that 10 years ago My doc's were telling me that I would need meds for the rest of my life and today I am drug free. and even though that there are days I feel blue I can recover and go on. there are alot more good days then bad. I still see a therapist from time to time but life is so much more full filling and I do not Remember what it was like to be so depressed that I couldn't get out of bed or eat or sleep. I hope that helps some, I wish you the best and hope you find your answers.By the way I have never told anyone about the TV story before LOL!!!