Hurting people online!

[ladyk99]

as in I just recieved a letter from a woman here online..about something that somebody said to her..that made her madder than anything!



I ,myself,seem to always be in this line of fire...(well , off and on!)SO, I totally get what she means!!!



I told a woman(whom I later found out was one of the moderators on a group which will remain UNnamed) that I did NOT like the way that a certain cultured group of people tended to treat others in the very same culture...I even had to "apologize" but, personally, I don't feel THAT sorry!



You ought to see how other people in my own culture treat me..because I am NOT what THEY are!!

It's highly upsetting...very hurtful to me..I cannot tell you or emphasize how much it really does hurt a person..when you are on the "outcast list" as "not good enough" because "you do not "practice" the way of life, as they do!"

I put down some of the people in my culture..I don't mean "every single one of them" out there..but, it really, really, hurts my feelings when I am ostracized by my own culture!!

Oh,and by the way..this can happen in ANY culture..this is all about anthropology here!!

Trust me..it does and it still happens!!



But, on this group, I later apologized..because I tried sooo damn hard to explain this to this woman and well, she never did get it!!

She thought that I was being, talking and acting extremely racist...ya know what? I asked around to other cultures (offline) and they told me that "NO!, You are NOT being racist at all! We totally understand what you are saying!!"

I asked several times..just to make sure..and even some of my other friends who are online on other sites..understood what I was trying to say!!!



Anyhow...it stinks, personally that people think that they can bully others here and elsewhere..I have news for you...if you are bullying somebody..you do NOT have a life!!

You need to get one, and leave us the hell alone!!

If you are being bullied, leave the other party alone..they are NOT worth the pain and agony...they have problems!! They are "never gonna get it!!" (to kind of quote the music group" En Vogue!" LOL!)Besides...is this what you really want to spend your whole life doing is defending yourself online with people whom you don't even know..and are totally NOT worth the trouble?!!!

GOD!!!



I don't need flare ups..I have mild lupus,mild fibro', type two diabetes..and I am now dealing with bad arthritis pain..and it gets a whole lot worse when I have flare ups ..and I get my flare ups from stress and anxiety too!!



If you suffer from stuff like I do..then you don't need the extra pain and suffering either!!



But, if you don't..do you think that you "deserve" the extra pain and suffering?



(I would not think so!!)



Just a note for you to think about...and then maybe you can back off..and no, you're not letting them win, persay..but, you are letting their crap go right out of the window!! and into the wind!!





Just some random thoughts for you all to chew on, t'is all!!



ladyk99

[SylviaNCali]

May. 27, 2008 at 9:40 PM I'm sorry to hear you're going through all of this. I've been in this situation a few times and it's never nice to call another person a name just because of a disagreement. Some people on here only see THEIR WAY and if you're not in line with them you're anything but good. I wish people could learn to respectfully agree to disagree and still be able to tolerate each other and maybe even be friends. We cannot all be the same or agree on every topic anyway.