I just got home from a very intense couple of days! My baby boy woke up Friday morning limping & favoring his left leg. My mom had got bit by a spider a week before so I got nervous & took him to his pediatrician. Since he had a fever & the foot was hot to the touch she sent us to Children's Hospital(Det, MI). After 3 tries for an IV, waiting in the ER, & my poor baby miserable we were admitted. They think he has an infection in his foot(cellulitis) & wanted to observe him & give him antibiotics. He is better today, & can actually walk better! Staying in a strange place, an IV attatched, etc left my 19 mos old so very scared of the unknown. That leads me to vent about what I seen in the hospital, that is not only sad but makes you wonder about society today.................

The first thing that caught my attention other than my son yesterday, was the cries of 2 little children alone in their room. I had the feeling their parents werent there, & they probably werent going to be. I wasn't shocked but saddened.  I have seen it before and as a matter of fact my son's roomate was abandoned in the hospital bc of a syndrome she had called Prader Willi Syndrome.(I met the foster parents that rescued her & we need more people like that!) As a Nursing Student, I know that we are short staffed but it made me question being a nurse. As a person of this society in these economic times people need to make a living. However, as a parent, I could never leave my child alone. The 5 month old little girl cried & cried until she fell asleep in a bouncer seat for 3 hours..ALONE! Her roomate, a 3 or 4 yr old little boy was crying, shouting for his mommy, & banging on his crib for attention. Eventually the door got shut & the cries were diminished. My mom & I just couldn't belive it & she said to me, "I could never be a nurse." This morning the children were still in their room crying out for attention. I wanted to go in there & just hold that baby & play with the little boy. I heard the nurses saying they tried for hours to get ahold of a parent to come pick up the baby. I just cant imagine! Finally a couple nurses on the next shift brought the little boy out to play. He actually had a smile on his face until he said to the nurse, "I want to go home" & she said, "I know you do, honey." Just sad!!

In my opinion, why cant these hospitals(esc. CHildren's Hospital of MI-top in the country) hire more volunteers to come in & spend more time with these kids? Why can't a parent leave an aunt/friend/grandparent/uncle SOMEONE with their child if it is pertinant to go to work, etc. I have a feeling these parents did not care & used up their free time doing other things than spending the night with their children. Just flat out disgusting!  Like I said about the nurses...sometimes you cant blame them bc of understaffing but spending the most time they can would be benefical rather than sitting at the nurses station dont you think??

Whats your opinion??

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 12:44 AM

I think it's disgusting.  And I'm not talking about moms who run down to the cafeteria to get lunch and then go back up either, but situations like you were describing. 

There was a girl in an old group I was in who left her toddler in the hospital by himself to come home, take a shower, play on the computer, relax, etc.  Like it was a freaking babysitting service.  I couldn't imagine how scared and alone he must have been, it made me want to cry.  My son had to be admitted for an apnea study and a PH probe when he was very little (turned out with reflux) and we were there for 3 days, I couldn't imagine leaving him for one second.  Either my husband or I was there at all times.  It ought to be a crime, I actually thought it was...

Anyways, I hope your son is all better soon!

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 12:44 AM I just couldn't leave any of my little ones by themselves. I don't understand the ones who can...

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 12:53 AM Thank you aurorabunny...he is feeling much better!  I want to add that I am not talking about mom's who go out for air, to the gift shop, cafeteria-I dont find anything wrong with that, but as aurorabunny said, "using the hospital like a freaking babysitting service" is wrong!  I completely agree with you all the way....when Pres was 3 mos old, he was admitted for a week....someone was always with him!

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:03 AM I have been in and out of the hospital with my oldest the first few years of her life.. I never even left her by herself when I did go to the bathroom. I always had my mom or grandpa sit with her. I always had someone bring me my meals. I realize not everyone has this type of help, but I would never leave one of my kids in the hospital while I went home and played. I can't imagine leaving the hospital at all. I saw this when I had my last baby. Mother who just popped out a kid an hour before were outside smoking. One couple even left their baby with the nurses while her and her boyfriend went to dinner. I was appalled. All I wanted to do was stare at my babies after I had them. It's just insane to me.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 1:39 AM when my younger son was a baby he was ad mited a couple of times for his heart and i was right there with him never left his side except for when he was in icu and they put me up in the hotel after his sugery but i was there every day and night to visit until he was in a reg room then i roomed with him

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 8:29 AM My son was admitted a few weeks ago and i was just heartbroken.  Since it was last minute and my hubby was out in the field we hd nothing, (like my meds and tooth brush).  The nurses told me to go home and get cleaned up on the 3rd day and just looked at her like she was crazy.  I was NOT leaving my baby up there alone!  He was 19 months too.  I just can't believe people do that!  I saw some kids walking around with the nurses and I wondered where the parents were.  I saw the same thing when my baby was in the NICU.  Some of those babies never got visited, which I didn't understand cuz I never wanted to leave!  They made me go home and sleep after a couple of months.  But we lived two hours away so i was very reluctant of course.  It just makes me sad for those children that don't have someone to be with them.

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Jun. 1, 2008 at 11:44 AM

I pray that the day doesn't come when I have to leave my son in the hospital by himself.  I hope that no mom wants to do it.  I hope it's a situation where the mom/dad had no choice.  Like you, it would have saddened me too to see any child left alone with no one.  Kids don't ask for that.  That can't be healthy for self esteem especially at such an early age.  In the meantime, I thank God and I imagine that you do too, that I have the resources and maternal instincts to stay with my child.  I can't imagine not being there.  Hek, I even rushed back to the room when I went to get something to eat in the cafeteria.   I didn't even want him to miss me for a few minutes.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 5:02 PM It is very sad indeed, when parents or a relative cannot be with a child in the hospital - we all cannot imagine such a transgression.  I actually feel worse for the child when it will return home to a life of living in a home where it is not given attention or properly cared for.  I pray that this is not the case and that there are extenuating circumstances that left these children alone.

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 6:16 PM I had to leave my daughter at a hospitol for 5 days when she was only a couple of days old and it was very hard thing for me to do... Id come and visit her 3 to 4 times a day for a couple hrs. at a time but I couldn't afford to stay the night because I had another child and my husband had to work to support us... I also didn't have any family near by to help me out and watch my other daughter.  Sometimes familys can't afford to be there 24-7 and rely on the dr. and nurse to take good care of there children when they can't be there....  Not all parents are bad!!!!

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Jun. 2, 2008 at 9:28 PM

My daughter was born at 23 weeks! and i had to leave her at the hosp. b/c they wouldnt let me stay up there! i tryed but they told me that they couldnt spair a room for me to stay but i was up there everyday all day untill visting hours were over! but i would be up there before visting hours and they would let me in sometimes!

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